by onacruse 12 Replies latest jw friends
Lol - you got me there email - tis true.
But, there are some of us that "like" those "bad apples" and don't think they're so bad at all, and since we know to which you are referring may still be slightly offended at those type of remarks - you know what I mean?
think some young folk with alot of anger and no understanding show up is when things get a little fubar around here.
Umm...as a young person, with very little anger, and someone who makes a concious effort to not resort to name calling and letting my emotions get the best of me, this cuts deep. I have been in quite a few debates around here with "mature" individuals who seemed to want nothing more but to argue.
Just my opinion
But I really don't think it's fair to say young people cause the trouble on this board. Maturity has nothing to do with age.
I agree, respectful posters are a breath of fresh air.
They teach by example, rather than by force, both in front of and behind the scenes.
It makes their message far more palatable and makes the forum a safe place to 'spress yourself.
That iz refreshing to me!
It takes a special blend of love, respect and humility, self-respect even,
and it's nice to see those qualities personified every so often!
Fine testament to humanity they iz, me thinks.
Such posters remind me of the saying "a true leader looks out for all egos involved".
Sadly, many of us raised in dysfunctional situations, often don't learn
a) genuine love and respect for ourselves or
b) how to receive the viewpoints of others with respect or
c ) how to represent our viewpoint with respect for the listener
so it's understandable that so many here struggle with that.
We sometimes lean towards the "my way or the highway at all costs" philosophy/method that we were raised with, no?
Human emotion can be powerful (or is it we can be weak?) and override even the best of intentions to be respectful.
I could always use some help representing myself at all in the face of those less than respectful,
so I am reading a book called "Getting to YES - Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In".
("the society" would be sooooo unimpressed with all the self-help books i've been reading lately lol)
Obviously "agreement" isn't always the goal, but I think the methods this book suggests
are valuable towards maintaining respect for all parties even where "discussions" are concerned.
I've only read about a third of it, but I'm learnin lots of pragmatic stuff!
SPAZ
Edited by - SPAZnik on 10 January 2003 18:15:29
