by dmouse 32 Replies latest jw friends
dmouse:
So sorry you feel bad about not being invited. I think that was just down right mean!
I am surprised that your wife and children accepted the dinner invitation knowing you would be excluded. If I was your wife, I would have respectfully declined the invitation. Very bad manners.........
Mrs. Shakita
It seems to do nothing but emphasis the 'us and them' attitude. I would have thought they would invite us as a family, at least for the sake of my wife's feelings, because I might be turned around by their love
They use your emotions as a tool to work for them........the filthy FU**ING bastards! My family does it too. They ALL do! This is the only tool they really have once you leave. I don't know of others that go to this extreme measure inside "orthodox" Christianity.
So sorry you have to suffer this.........and the rest of the thousands who go through the same shit. There should be law against this type of religion.......perhaps someday
Anyways.......you have good friends here.
Edited by - Gumby on 11 January 2003 18:13:35
he's not the humblest of elders;
This is the basic root of it all. It takes a certain amount of pompous self-righteousness to judge yourself as better than another. If this certain elder were REALLY following Jesus he would see himself as a SERVANT, as one not worthy to judge another - Romans 14:4 Who are you to judge someone else's servant? To his own master he stands or falls. And he will stand, for the Lord is able to make him stand.
They are a perfect example of modern day Pharisees.
PS - I do know how you feel. My brother is getting married and while I am not invited, I have been asked to purchase a plane ticket to send other family members. Go figure......
Edited by - Dawn on 11 January 2003 18:22:27
(((((dmouse))))))
Sorry for your hurt. I was shunned (not even unexpectedly) by someone last fall and was also shocked at how upset and shaky and worthless it made me feel. I was resolutely gone from the Borg and I thought their power to hurt me was gone, but I found out otherwise. It must hurt much more when your spouse actively participates (although I'm sure she doesn't see it that way).
Perhaps talking to her tonight about how it hurt you that she would accept an invitation out (and take your son) knowing you were not welcome and telling her that you would never (if it's true) do that to her, ever, will make her stop and think. Just make a statement. Don't drag it out. Perhaps this sorry situation will never repeat itself.
Perhaps Ben can tell his mother that he felt bad for Dad being left behind, too?
<sigh>
outnfree
Perhaps talking to her tonight about how it hurt you that she would accept an invitation out (and take your son) knowing you were not welcome and telling her that you would never (if it's true) do that to her, ever, will make her stop and think
Good advise! I would try it but I am disfellowshipped and so I can't use this. I would take outnfree's suggestion and see what happens.
sad!!!!!!
Why did your wife go and leave you? If my wife ain't invited, I don't go.
francois
Sorry dmouse I have to side with francoise on this, I cannot understand your wife accepting the invitation without you. I would never do that to a spouse, never.
Shame on the elder for purposely puuting your family in this situation shame !
LOL @ Heathen...
The most tragic element to this JW practice is that your typical JW gets a thrill out of being able to be cruel to others on "biblical" grounds. And then the truly saddest part is that they all are so eager to do this to others that most of them end up being the wounded one by getting excluded. Instead of learning from how it feels, when back in golden status they do it to others all over again. This surely must be evil behavior.
Shoshana
