by JH 23 Replies latest jw friends
We moved into an new congregation over a year ago. While my wife attends most meetings, I attend only about half the sunday meetings and none of the other meetings. The only time the P.O. has talked to me was once when I was talking to his wife.
I have not been contacted, and have not even had a "welcome to the congregation" visit, and I do not expect to be contacted in the future.
It's been 5 years since BRUCE HONDLE(a lawyer and an elder) told me he'd research what I told him about the borg and get back to me, and I've yet to hear from him.
TR
I was contacted once, when I first started my fade, by a couple of elders in my "new" congregation who barely knew me. One of them said he thought I was just going through a phase, which totally pissed me off considering he was sitting on MY couch in MY house. So I politely asked them to leave. Never heard from them again. I now live in a different territory, and sometimes dubs come through that I have known for years. They don't make special visits, they are just working my street in service. They say hello, say hi to my son, and go their own way. Pretty much everyone knows where I live, but since my family is still in, and well respected, and since I am married to a non believer and obviously not living in sin, I don't know if they care. My holiday decorations are always small (because we're too lazy to go through too much effort), but they are there, so there's no doubt we are celebrating. Maybe they put that down to my "worldly" husband. I don't want them to come by to talk, though, because my bitterness level is pretty high these days, and I might say something that would make them come after me.
No visits, only dart throwing looks from and older sister when I was at the grocery store. Mom-in-law has not informed us that we have been DF'd or DA'd. Isn't the reactivate campaign the first three months of this year? If so the elders still have 2 1/2 months to visit.
Mrs Rocky
I have never been visited since I faded away over 7 years ago. The elders did come visit my (now x)husband and I ONCE when we became inactive six months before we divorced. Once we were divorced, I didn't hear from anyone except a couple of close friends. Quite ironic since my parents are still active and we were well know in our circuit. My mother recently told me that people weren't surprized that I left the Borg because of my associations when I was going (most of whom are pioneers, MS and elders now)...didn't understand that comment.
My mother still believes I left because I never really knew the "truth"...despite the fact that I was a pioneer for many years. It is funny how JWs rationalize why people leave! I have told her, more times than I can count, that I think JWs are a "false religion", "false prophets" and that they outright lie...she still thinks I just don't want to follow the "guidelines the Bible sets out" and that I just want to do what I want to do.
I actually have a lot of x-JW friends and none of them have ever been visited as far as I know. Do you think that once they know you are "apostate" that they don't even try?
It hasn't happened yet, but it will. We've been gone, and now we're back.
I know of some ex JW's who will likely not get called on. They moved into areas, where no one knows them. The elders who would be inclined to call on them, don't know where they live now. They just might have successfully escaped.
Angharad, I can believe it! That is really awful because for all they know you could be secretly desiring to be helped/return.
You know, an elder once said to me that some people who join and then leave were never meant to be in the new system - Jehovah just brought them in to do some work for him and then let them leave back to their wicked ways. ARGH. So now God uses "worldlies" to do his dirty work? That must have helped that elder justify not giving a SH*T about those who leave.
Sirona
I don't hide from them. I invite them to study with me. They tell me I am not worth the effort.
gary
They know where I am and could easily find me if they choose (my dad's an elder) however, they haven't tried to locate me. Maybe I am geographically undesirable or they really don't care. Like cruzanheart said, maybe I am not worth the effort, which is just fine with me!
It's been 14 years for me. On top of that I've moved and no one here knows me as a Witness. Now my wife is another story. Eventually they'll come for her, but we're ready.
