I know what you mean. I had a number of friends that I used to hold dear, and missed them when I was DF'd.
Later, some of them were DF'd too, and got back in touch with me. Thing was, we had very little in common except our past association, in fact one friend turned out to be surprisingly unintelligent away from WTBTS imprinting and was tedious in the extreme. Also, our social backgrounds were very different too once we got away from the common ground of dub-dom.
I don't mean to sound cold, it's just that I probably would never have made friends with most of them in the first place if we hadn't all just happened to be JW's.
I know what you mean ... I've felt the same way too. People I grew up with and were best friends with now don't acknowledge me even in the street.
It isn't fair and it isn't right but what can you do?
It would have been better not to have been involved, but being involved it was better to have made friends and had the friendships and you never know, times and people change.
I was out of touch with my dad for a long while and always felt really down over it and now we are back together. Maybe not as it should have been and we've lost a lot of time but it's better than never speaking again.
You never know that peolpe change and just as the JW "mantra" says that they should be strong to encourage the person to change, maybe we need to do the same thing.
Having said that, some people I can quite happily forget about because they were never true friends ... I say sod 'em!
I probably would never have made friends with most of them in the first place if we hadn't all just happened to be JW's
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Yes, I have been thinking along those lines myself recently. One of my past closest friends was literally forced to be my friend; I guess that should tell me something! I think of the very nice 'worldly people' I've met along the way, and let them go, as I knew that they really weren't good enough to be my friend.....hey I'm a JW!! lol
Thanks E-Man
Simon,
and you never know, times and people change
Heres hoping!
I was out of touch with my dad for a long while and always felt really down over it and now we are back together. Maybe not as it should have been and we've lost a lot of time but it's better than never speaking again.
Really pleased for you! Yes, it is much better than not speaking.
Having said that, some people I can quite happily forget about because they were never true friends ... I say sod 'em!
Im with you on that! Lol I really feel that, that scripture about 'putting up with one another' has an awful lot to answer for. The dubs really do 'put up' with people who they ordinarily wouldn't bother with. I have seen so much hugging & kissing, and I know fine well that the person dishing out all this 'love' really barely even likes the person! So much LOVE!!
