Way back when...in the spring of 1984, I remembered I had arranged a meeting with the 'elders' in the last congregation I was in. The thing was, I wouldn't have approached them, but some 'brother' was going to report me etc., and call the Bethel in Canada blah-blah-blah. So, what did I do?
Wrote a letter to one elder. He wrote me back, he was in Florida at the time, and forwarded my msg. to another elder back in Toronto.
We arranged a meeting, it was on a Sunday in either April/May 84'. It was not held at the KH, but at an elder's home basement office.
I didn't waste ANY time. Told them what was up, right away. I just wanted to get it over with.
Well, out came the Bibles etc. (as would be expected) and then some info that one of the elders had pulled out of his hat that was not factual in my opinion. Later on I found it was not factual at all, based on ignorance.
Elders: Aren't you concerned about your choice, and displeasing Jehovah?
ME: No.
Elders: Are you repentant?
ME: No.
Elders: Is there anything we can do to persuade you?
Me: No.
Elders: (silence)
Then they began to pray. I just wanted to get it over with, more or less, quickly and as painlessly as possible.
I said little. No details, just yes/no answers. I did tell them what the offending sin was, but aside from that: NO DETAILS. Don't kid yourself, they asked many questions, and some were very personal.
It unnerved them, although trust me, it was not my intent. I remembered confiding to the elders before, and it caused me more headaches, and looking back, maybe I was marked. So my plan was to be: one-word-answers. I did not give them any fodder to work with.
Never was entirely sure if I was DF'd or DA'd. Doesn't really matter does it? I'm out of there now.
I'm Free!