confused and disfellowshipped

daddysgirl

Hello, Ive been disfellowshipped for being with my boyfriend who is a witness also, I'm sad and dont know what to do now, so Ive been looking around for answers, and found this site. .

I don't want to go back because the people I thought I loved, the fellow brothers and sisters , didnt seem to care when I was having problems, and I wondered where the "love" was in the organization.

So there is my problem. I dont want to go back yet, but I dont know, because the Watchtower is all I have known. I thought the elders were supposed to shepard their flock, but I feel "skinnned and thrown about"

Daddysgirl

Vivamus

Hi Daddysgirl,

Welcome to the board. I know how you must feel, you expected understanding and kindness, but got DF instead. I'm sure you have a lot of questions, and here is a great place for you to get the answers. Stick around, and i you want to talk, or vent, my email is open. I've been there.

Viv.

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pettygrudger

Hi daddysgirl - I SO relate to what you are feeling right now. When you are at your weakest, you can ask them for strength, support & guidance & get da boot instead......its a terrible feeling.

Best advice I can give you is to "study" this religion before you jump back in - you might not get another chance. Also, be assured that only God - and not mere men - know what is in your heart - and only he can judge you - regardless of your status within any organization.

riz

count yourself lucky. they did you a favor. move on with your life and for the love of pete don't ever go back.

RevMalk

So there is my problem. I dont want to go back yet, but I dont know, because the Watchtower is all I have known. I thought the elders were supposed to shepard their flock, but I feel "skinnned and thrown about"

Most of us have been right where you are now. I feel for you. You've come to the right place, you'll learn how to deal with this. Healing is a slow process for most, but being around true friends that really do care will make it so much easier. Welcome!

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SpannerintheWorks

Hiya, Daddysgirl,

Good to have you here! This forum is a great place to be and you have done the right thing simply by coming here!

Stick around and read the posts that follow; you will soon feel comfortable and at home!

Spanner

Elsewhere

I recently read a book that I think would be great for you:

It is called The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse (Just follow the hyperlink to see the book on Amazon.com)

SheilaM

Daddy'sGirl:

That is why I am here lack of love and so many many others. This is the first step to the rest of your life

Nosferatu

Hello daddy'sgirl!

I understand that when a person has problems, and they turn to the elders, brothers, etc, they just seem to try and throw a blanket of Watchtower articles over the problems, often critisizing (in a kind and loving way) what you have done. This in effect makes the person feel much worse. And if you don't fix your problems up the way the WT outlines, you get cast out.

The problem with this method of problem solving, is that it doesn't get to the root of the problems. It doesn't help the person properly deal with the problems. The WT works on making you think that your problems were the cause of being in "Satan's wicked system of things". This excuse will result with the person never properly dealing with the problems, and having to suffer with them for the rest of their lives. Yeah, armageddon will fix all that, but wasn't armageddon suppose to come before the 1914 generation dies? Or was it 1975?

The best way to look at this situation is to start a new and exciting adventure, being able to discover things that you have never been able to.

Just curious, what's the status of your bf? How does he feel about the whole situation?

nonjwalltheway

I am very sorry to hear about this. I almost joined the JW religion as all of my wife's family are JW's. I was about to join up and then I started doing my own independent research and what I learned appalled me. Here are some other links to other sites. This religion is about control over people and making money. Here are some links:

www.jwfiles.com

www.freeminds.org

It is sad how brainwashed people are into siding with The Watchtower over their own family members.

Take care and good luck.

NonJwalltheway

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