Anybody here ever go on chaperoned dates?

by unbeliever 26 Replies latest jw friends

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  LB

  Back when my son was being chaperoned a neighbor asked me why. I told him it was for their own protection. So he asks me "don't witnesses trust their own kids?". I stammered around some but had to agree. Witnesses don't trust their kids. Once when my son was driving his gf to the movies I followed him in our car. This way they could have some private time and discuss things without anyone over hearing. We got several phone calls from the "friends" about my son going out unchaperoned.

  When elders called about it I gave them a ration of crap they won't soon forget. Funny thing is a few months later the PO's daughter was dating and doing exactly the same thing as my son was.
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  Stephanus

  It seems that witnesses are never considered grown up by the FDS - they've got to hang on to Mother's apron strings all their lives. A 48yo elder can't be trusted to be responsible on a date, yet they are entrusted with all the marital and family problems in the cong? Give me a break!

  LB, I'm not sure being followed around by your Dad is actually any better than the standard approach...
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  nelly1

  ohh this brings to mind my courtship with my now husband, I went to usa and we had a chaperone a deaf sister, my husband is also deaf, and we went to LA for a convention, well our chaperone was a demanding little cow, and decided she was too tired to take my fiance to his motel, we were travelling in her van, well she went and sat in the spa and refused so I had to take him in a taxi.(even though she had demanded so much for gas money to take us where we needed to go) grrrrr

  alone mind you without her chaperoning, well the next day we were in the hotel room and she decided she was going somewhere and left us alone in the room, well the stupid cow that was staying with us 3 in the room also came back and me and my fiance were there, well that led to a 3 hour lecture on chaperoning and not being left alone like it was our fault.

  I was sooooooooooooooo pissed off with her, jumped up little know it all, she was in her early 20's and i am 40 so you can imagine that i wanted to strangle her several times.

  so much for a chaperone ours couldnt be bothered, we never did anything wrong, so it didnt matter but, this chaperoning thing for older ppl in public is ridiculous to say the least, thank god im out of this so i dont have to put up with that crap again!!!!!!!

  love to all

  nelly
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  LB

  Well Stephanus we were all going to the movies together. It seemed a reasonable way to dodge the JW bullets to me.

  Ummmm some of us are older than 48 and still have raging hormones.
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  teshababe

  I am 19 years old and have been married for six months. My husband and I did go on chaperoned dates and I think it was wise that we did, even though at the time we didn't see the need for it. Satan is good at going after natural desires and I'm thankful that my brother and sister were there to chaperone us. On the other hand, if you always have a chaperone around, it may be hard for a couple to really get to know each other. But I definitely agree with having chaperoned dates.
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  Xander

  Not just stupid dating restrictions, though. Those were bad enough, in our congo, it seemed you couldn't even "date" - even chaperoned. I think it was a YPA article, but the society 'suggested' if two young christians wanted to get to know each other, the appropriate way to do that would be to do group activities together. IE., going bowling with a large group, going to modest gatherings, etc.

  The reason being, of course, in a GROUP setting, you wouldn't get the 'wrong desires' you might if just going on a date with a chaperone. (And we all know 'wrong desires' are JUST as bad as fornication!)

  So that's how the wife and I dated. Never in a group of less than 4 (well, a FEW times, but....hehehe....)

  In any case, the whole stupid restrictions on male->female interaction.

  I remember a number of times when a brother would have a broken car or would be fixing one of our parents or something. Mom would actually make me be late to work until my bro would come home because she couldn't be 'alone' with a brother.

  Try explaining THAT one to your boss.

  (btw, w00t for my 'Emperor' post!)
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  cruzanheart

  You mean no one ever thought of the "I'm going out in service" ploy? Man, Big Tex and I dated for two years using that and were by ourselves most of the time. "Service" consisted of going out with the group (we were both pioneers), finishing our door-to-door and RV's, lunch, parking behind Kroger's for a while, maybe a movie, and then to our respective homes. Sometimes it was Albertson's.

  I got to be a chaperone on one memorable, incredibly boring occasion. I kind of double-dated with the guy's brother who was dating my friend, and they parked in a nice remote section of White Rock Lake Park and then said they were going to take a walk. The guy's brother and I sat in the back of the pickup truck, on opposite ends, and made small talk for an hour. I mean, we had NOTHING in common except that we were both homo sapiens.

  Nina

  P.S. Welcome to the forum, teshababe! And may your marriage be as happy as ours is (20 years in June! I expect a Happy Anniversary thread round about June 4!)
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  troucul

  I used to chaperone a 'sister' and her fiance with her sister. Funny, they weren't the ones that needed to be chaperoned.

  Queue porn music....
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  greven

  BWAHAHAHAHA!!!!

  Greven
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  Curious Mind

  My wife and i were not even allowed to dance together at our own engagement party, one of the elders thoughts we might have lustfull thoughts,sorry guys but TOO LATE and what did they think we were going to do, rip off our clothes and get into it on the dance floor in front of 150 people!