My mother's mother who was 97 died yesterday. We weren't close. I had not seen her in probably close to 20 years. She lived an odd existence. She lived in a little mobile home overrun with cats most of her life. I wasn't very close to most of her family. Mostly one uncle and one aunt. Most of the brothers and sisters had or have pretty tragic lives.
I don't know if I will go to the funeral. It will probably be at a Kingdom Hall. All those relatives and friends in one place not talking to me, I think would completely batter my nerves to bits. If not for facing this shunning I probably would have visited a Kingdom Hall by now, but that keeps me away. Just too traumatic.
After my mother gets over the grief, I know she will be better off. She has been single handedly taking care of my grandmother for years and years. None of the witness grandchildren who lived in her same town had the time to do anything for her, so my 80 year old father and 76 year old mother would drive 50 miles once a week to take her shopping and clean her trailer until she was put in a nursing home a few months ago.
My grandmother was never baptized but I think all of her children were except one and I think most of her grandchildren are witnesses, so she gets a witness funeral by proxy.