Is it Possible to Love More than One Person? (page 2)

Simon

I think the 'one partner' thing is a modern invention of society (probably tied in with the growth of christian religion)

Ultimately, anyone we have any relationship with (sexual or not) is on a varying scale of 'like' or 'dislike' and it's unreasonable to presume that there is some artificially large gap between the one who is foremost in our affection and any others.

So yes, I think it is posisble to love more than one person and probably likely but this isn't to say that there would be no emotional complications because of it (but then denying it could also cause complications?)

Hey, I've been drinking ... this may not make sense in the morning

not interested

Robyn,

I would have to answer yes to all questions. IMHO, there are many different levels of "love", as you described in your post, and as you said finding a person that connects on all levels is near imposible

gydja

Hi!

I really think thats possible to love someone-DEEP from the heart (completely) and have a sexual relationship with someone else at the samt time. ... Ive tried it.. . It worked out for me. My hubby wanted to join in, so we let him....

Im not saying it could work 4 everybody, but it worked 2 me!!!

GOOD LUCK..

Luv

Gyja

MegaDude

Even when I was very happily married and in love with my wife, I still met women I wanted to sleep with. We're made to notice beauty and I don't think that will ever change. However, I believe open marriage or open relationships are a tested and tired concept that doesn't work any better than communism does for most people. Sex is too intimate and emotional to be shared with anyone outside the marriage or a committed relationship. Asking permission is completely irrelevant. In my opinion it's destructive to the relationship, and if spouses won't commit to marital fidelity the marriage or relationship will implode most of the time.

Brummie

Brummie
You obviously are very devoted to your wife and family. Another reason why I think you are wonderful.

Robyn, my 2 secret girlfriends said they agree with you.

Brummie

COMF

Robyn, I'm in love with your mind, sweetie.

There is no one-and-only. There are just one-and-only moments.

http://pages.sbcglobal.net/fredsaw/Lindbergh/Double_Sunrise2.html

http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/forum/thread.aspx?id=4864&site=3

Robdar

Define love.

Animal, whereas I may not be able to say exactly what love is, I know when I am in it....

The key is to be with someone who thinks along the same lines as you, and thereby avoid unintentional emotional harm.

Happyout,

Whereas, I agree, I think that this could be a problem for most couples. Usually this sort of thing is perceived to be "infidelity" and the other partner feels threatened.

(but then denying it could also cause complications?)

Simon, I think it could cause complications. I also think that the other partner can usually sense when their partner may be distracted by another love interest. I have heard many men and women say that they had dreams about their partner fooling around and this is what eventually led to them investigating and finding out what was going on.

IMHO, there are many different levels of "love",

Mac, I agree. I think that there could even be a few that we humans haven't discovered yet...lol

Im not saying it could work 4 everybody, but it worked 2 me!!!

Gydja, cool. Congrats!

I believe open marriage or open relationships are a tested and tired concept that doesn't work any better than communism does for most people.

Mega,

Interesting anaolgy.

Robyn, my 2 secret girlfriends said they agree with you.

LOL Brummie....cute!

Robyn, I'm in love with your mind, sweetie.

Comf,

Is that all you love? Drats, I was hoping you loved my body too.

Thank you all for responding.

Love,

Robyn

Edited by - robdar on 14 February 2003 2:49:55

greven

Yes to all the questions!

SheilaM

Robyn:

I believe it depends on the person. As Jgnat said to me sex is intimacy and to betray something that sacred it just horrible. But it depends on the person some people see sex as recreation and never take it to the deepest levels that can be achieved.

Edited by - SheilaM on 14 February 2003 11:45:35

Edited by - SheilaM on 14 February 2003 11:46:2

jgnat

Oh, yes, it is possible to love more than one person at a time. I chose not to act on every feeling I have. I believe cheating on a partner, sexually, is a betrayal of that intimacy. I will not go down that road.

Robdar, here is a book I thoroughly enjoyed. Maxwell Perkins really loved his career above all else. But his other loves make for very interesting reading.

http://www.writermag.com/WRT/html/departments/writestuff/200208_618.asp

Is it Possible to Love More than One Person?

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