Is it Possible to Love More than One Person?

by Robdar 64 Replies latest social relationships

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  Farkel

  wednesday,

  You said:

  : Agree, open marriages have been tried, and don't work.

  True, they are mostly failures in our Western Culture, but they are not a big deal in many other cultures and haven't been for millenia.

  This begs the question about WHY they don't work in Western Culture:

  Is it because of religious taboos? Of course, that is the reason. Religion screws up cultures. Period.

  They aren't religious taboos in other cultures and other cultures take open marriages for granted. The Aleut males will offer their wives to a visitor for pleasure without having a second thought. The wife of the Aleut male likes the variety and the visitor enjoys the experience as well. This "adultery" doesn't destroy the bond between the Aleut male and his wife. It's just sex. It's not love.

  The parents deal with it and the children grow up with that lifestyle as part of their life.

  I'm not trying to advocate anything, but to say that "open marriages don't work" as a blanket generalization is not correct. To say it doesn't work in Western society IS correct, and therefore it is worthwhile to find out why it doesn't work in our society, and after all is said and done, the answer becomes evident:

  Religion did it.

  Farkel
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  SixofNine

  *wonders if he should post pictures in this thread?*
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  Buster

  Robyn: Would you, if possible, have sexual intercourse as an expression of your loving feelings with any other than the "one" you are "in love" with? If by the term 'if possible' you mean without getting caught? - yup.

  Can it be done without becoming confused, emotionally? I can't - don't have the maturity and/or energy to pull that one off. That is why I would get caught (see first question).
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  Robdar

  leaving betrayl of your spouse out ot the equation,do u really want to complicate your life with more than one sexual relationship? Sometimes sex can ruin a really good friendship

  Wednesday,

  What you said is true. Sometimes sex can ruin a friendship. But I know quite a few people that are friends and have sex to express their love and to comfort each other during lonely times. Several years ago I was in this sort of friendly relationship. I enjoyed the love, trust, friendhip and comfort. It was my pleasure to give him the same sort of companionship. Oh, and the sex was awesome.

  There was no room in my emotional landscape to extend to another the depth of feelings I had for that one person. I wonder sometimes (and I sincerely am not directing this at any particular person) if people who use this argument are not attempting to find some way to rationalize the betrayal (emotionally, sexually, etc) of their significant other

  Safe4,

  I think it is wonderful that you had that sort of emotional connection with your partner. But I think that your experience is the exception and not the norm. Of course, I am only speaking from my personal experience and the experience of my friends.

  I do see the point you made about rationalization. Although I am sure sometimes it does occur for this very reason, I do not completely agree with you. Again, I am only speaking from personal experience.

  They aren't religious taboos in other cultures and other cultures take open marriages for granted.

  Farkel,

  Thanks for pointing that out. You said it much better than I could have.

  *wonders if he should post pictures in this thread?*

  LOL Six,

  I think that you should post them as an educational aide.

  Buster, Thank you for your comments.

  Thanks everybody for posting.

  Love,

  Robyn
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  whyhideit

  You can love more then one person. If it is two, it's a threesome. Anymore then that is a orgy.
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  siegswife

  I love alot of people. I don' t make love to alot of people (anymore). It's quite possible to love more than one person...I think it's preferable.
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  COMF

  Robyn,

  Drats, I was hoping you loved my body too.

  To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose. Come closer, and I will demonstrate.
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  Robdar

  You can love more then one person. If it is two, it's a threesome. Anymore then that is a orgy.

  LMAO, Whyhideit! I am going to have to send you the cleaning bill for my blouse. When I read your post, I laughed so hard, I got my soft drink all over me.

  It's quite possible to love more than one person...I think it's preferable.

  Siegswife,

  I like the way your mind works.

  To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose. Come closer, and I will demonstrate.

  Comf,

  I just love it when you quote scripture to me. Know any verses from the Song of Solomon?

  Thanks for posting, everybody.

  Love yas,

  Robyn
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  COMF

  Ah, Robyn, you have awakened the south wind, and it longs to blow upon your garden, reveling in its fragrance. Open to me, my sister. Is your hair yet drenched with the dampness of the night?

  COMF - climber of palm trees
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  Robdar

  Comf,

  I fainted when I read your post. Now that I have recovered, let me tell you something:

  "As the apple tree among the trees of the wood, so is my beloved among the sons. I sat down under his shadow and with great delight, and his fruit was sweet to my taste."

  Robyn