It is not a spiritual matter that can be fixed by untrained elders praying over the abuser. Your Old Testament example falls short in that during those times the religious leaders were also the administrators of the Law. In modern times and in the Christian Congregations, Elders are not judges of crimes nor should they be approached about such matters. It is the responsibility of secular authoirites (that Jehovah allows to exist and thus we are Scripturally told to support) to investigate such criminal behaviour.
There is all this concern about the abuser or even the alleged abuser, but so little focus on the life destroyed, that of the child. Which gets more consideration in your opinion? The spiritual well being of the child, the spiritual health or reputation of the accused or the reputation of God's Organization? Scripturally which should take first priority?
Gower has admitted to have 'acted inappropriately' yet even you are more focussed on his right to spiritual life in the congregation than you are the person who's life was destroyed by him and later by the way she was mishandled by the elders at the direction of Bethel. Of course if she was truly a spiritual woman she wouldn't let this bother her right? (sarcasm intended) I'm sure you've heard that justification before, "Well s/he may have received discipline wrongly but it gives her a chance to prove her devotion to Jehovah." Again it is the victim's fault.
This is a hot button for me, look at the screen name for a clue on that one. Why was Uzzah killed when all he wanted to do was to protect the Ark of the Covenant? It was the priest's fault for carrying the ark improperly, yet Uzzah was killed. Bethel uses that story to keep the friends in line and to bully people into submission.
A victim of abuse faces this same sort of intimidation tactics and bullying when there is no second witness to the abuse. S/he has to sit in the Kingdom Hall and see that brother pray on behalf of the congregation and if she says anything in warning to any other children or to the parent's of children, the victim of abuse will face judicial action for slandering and causing divisions. Is this loving? Is this the way you believe your Heavenly Father wants his sheep handled?
Just as He took favour away from the Nation of Isreal, why is it so inconcievable that he couldn't do the same in modern times if His named people turned away from his face and became no different than other parts of Babylon, except continuing to bear his name.
Look at the example of even the reporting of abuse to authorities. In States where it is not mandatory, the society will usually tell the elders not to report. Yet where the Law requires it, they now will usually tell the elders to report it only after their own investigation has been completed.
If this really is God's Organization, why do they wait for Caeser's laws to change before they do the right and moral thing?