Just an outside opinion, nothing more: It seems that in dealing with my father, who is a dedicated JW, and with whom I am trying to re-establish communications after twenty years..... I have tried so many times... where did I go wrong?... I think, that I should have left those issues you mentioned at the doorstep... at least for a short time. If they feel that you are "attacking" the whole.... then they will become defensive, you will be considered a threat. In your friends mind, you are truly an apostate.... it is the same as being charged with Heresy.
Try again with her shortly.... show her kindness, and love, and do not judge her.... try to remember that she is only there in the first place, because she has a desire to express "goodness and faith in god". She alone is not responsible for the actions of the Man-made structure. Remember that they are kept ignorant of what is really going on. Dont let religion be an issue when trying to establish a communication... focus on your friendship first. Express to her your faith and belief in God, later.
It is perhaps in this way, that many of us will recover our family and friends, that have been taken. My father is an elder.... but after twenty years, I have begun to establish some communication with him... slowly.... I am careful not to be condescending or confrontational.... Attacking them... only makes them defensive. Give your friend some time, she will have to feel something eventually.... If she was ever your friend... she will have to admit to herself that she is purposely shunning you, because of a list of rules. That in itself, is a step in the right direction. Perhaps she will begin to question those who make those rules.
