Finally, after almost 3 years, they want to visit with me

stuckinarut2

Wow!
Sorry, I missed this thread when it first came up.
I agree with others comments here that you guys need to maintain your dignity, while ensuring that the couple respect APPROPRIATE BOUNDARIES.
Be calm and friendly, but do not open up, nor be entrapped into a situation or conversation you don't want to have.
Thinking of you!
JWdaughter

You handled this situation nicely. The iPad bit was obnoxious, but you didn't let them get to you.
DesirousOfChange

STA, I think you managed to stay "under the radar". I think it's time to speed up your "fade". Good luck! . . . . Doc