((((Scooby))))) So sorry for your pain. The ending of my marriage was by far the hardest thing I've been thru in life. I think I cried everyday for over a year (the depression of being a witness was weighing on me as well). I remember, as a JW, swearing I would never find a silver lining in that situation... if Jehovah hated it, I was going to hate it, forever.
After leaving the religion, and the subsequent climb out of depression, I begrudgingly had to admit there were postives to the ending of my marriage.
Now I know it was the best thing for me. It was the best thing for my daughter. It was the best thing for my ex-wife.
I really think you should be careful about laying the blame totally at the feet of the religion. After all, you might have never questioned, yet he might have come to the conclusion he didn't want to live the witness life all on his own. From your description, a large part of his idea of losing the religion is losing you.
You're worth more than that, Scooby. Put the blame where it is deserved.
And if he ever does do the research in the future, I'll still respect you far more than him. His attitude at this time is pure ugly, imo.
ps. what'd he say about that "slow, steady castration" thing? lol
pss. and yes, do "mourn".