I am going to a meeting tomarrow

liquidsky

My mother called me last night an begged me to go to the meeting tomarrow. She has asked me to go numerous times during the last year,and I have made excuses everytime of why i can't attend. Last night she begged so I'm thinking that theres either a local needs talk that she wants me to hear or its the CO visit. After putting a huge guilt trip on me, and telling me how much everyone misses me at the kingdom hall (yeah right), and how I'll make her and my father sooo happy if I show up,I told her I would be there. Now i am really scared, my hands are shaking, I am nervous as Hell. I really do not want to go. I am already nervous about attending the memorial and this just makes it worse. I want to back out but I don't want to hurt my parents. I hate this!!!! I wish I was strong enough to tell them that I am very happy NOT being involved with the JW's, I don't want to attend any meetings, and that I'm only doing it to make them happy. I am starting to hope that i get DA'd so that I don't have to deal with it anymore. But I would like to keep communicating with my family so DA'ing myself is outta the question right now. I started looking into other religions and would like to attend a couple of different churches but this whole getting da'd over it and losing my family is keeping me from moving on. I'm tired......

sorry.. needed to vent

PopeOfEruke

Hi Liquidsky,

well, my Dad opposed the "truth" for years, all my life and the lives of my elder siblings. Then when I got married, he started coming along to a few meetings, sitting alongside my Mum,Wife, and me. We just couldn't believe it! After all those years of hatred for the Witnesses.....

and guess what! it didn't kill him! He eventually admitted that yes, its was a very nice story but thats all it was, a fairy story.

Now I am out, he has passed away, and I realise that he was right all the time!

Well, what I am trying to say is: just because you go to a meeting doesn't mean you believe the crap that gets sprouted off the platform. Make it clear that you are only going to make your parents happy, because you love them.

Then the following week ask them along to a church service which you are attending. See what they say!! Ha Ha!

Pope

DanTheMan

The more you hate the idea of attending a meeting, the more "see it wasn't so bad now was it/aren't the friends so loving" garbage they can dump on you afterwards.

The more the "friends" sense your God-I-Hate-Being-Here attitude, the more sugary the love bombing is going to be.

Towards the end of my short and unfortunate JW career, I got to where I would walk out of the KH after a meeting and not remember one single point that was made. Totally blacked them out.

As the British say, keep a stiff upper lip. You can survive this. You know the truth about "the truth".

jgnat

I can't help but wonder if your mom is using you for brownie points. You see, last week's study strongly encouraged the congregations to seek out the weak ones.

WT Study March 16 Have Love Among Yourselves from WT Feb 1, 2003 Can You be Happy and Secure in Your Work?

para. 3 ...

take Paul’s admonition to heart and endeavour to show love for one another “in fuller measure.”

para. 4

In the same inspired letter, Paul encouraged his fellow believers to “speak consolingly to the depressed souls” and to “support the weak.” (I Thessalonians 4:14) On another occasion, he reminded Christians that those “who are strong ought to bear the weaknesses of those not strong.” (Romans 15:1)

para. 9

Just as what was lost remained precious in the eyes of the shepherd and the woman, so those who have drifted away and lost contact with God’s people remain precious in Jehovah’s eyes. (Jeremiah 31:3) Such individuals may be spiritually weak, yet they are not necessarily rebellious. Despite their weakened state, to some extent they may still be keeping Jehovah’s requirements. (Psalm 119:176; Acts 15:29) Hence, as in times past, Jehovah is slow to “cast them away from before his face.” 2 Kings 13:23

cruzanheart

((((Liquidsky)))) I've been in your position, and it is very uncomfortable, if not downright nauseating. You could take the passive aggressive way out and plead illness or just speak up and say "no," or "not right now." Do what is comfortable for YOUR personality. And feel free to vent all you want!!!!

Love & hugs,

Nina

Scarlet

Liquidsky I know exactly how you feel. My Mom called me Saturday and asked me to go to Memorial I didn't give her a straight answer and she told me that even if my husband didn't go she would come and drag me to memorial with her. I also know if I don't go she will use my relationship with my minor sister to get back at me. It is a hard situation that I too have yet to come to grips with Liquidsky and don't know if we ever truly can. I too want to tell my mom I am only going to please her but I just cannot find the words to do so. I know to them it wouldn't matter what reason you were going as long as you were going. I am sorry you have to go through this at list you have this board of people that are here to support you. (((((((((((((liquidsky))))))))))))))

Carly

Big Tex

Let's be careful out there. -- Hill Street Blues

Liquid Sky, you don't have to do anything you don't want to do. Live your own life and make your own choices.

not interested

Hey odd you should mention this,

2 weeks ago i got the same thing from my mother, It was you nephew,(9 years old) is giving his first talk and he wants you to come, they know im a sucker for my nephews, so i agreed to come.

I Arrived at the kingdumb hall at 7:30 waited about 10 minutes before going in, when i got in there was a seat saved for me by my youngest brother, how nice of him i thought,

anyway after listening to the same things i have heared for my whole life, i realized that everyother word was some kind of subliminal message, and began to realize how they are so good at brain washing, i stayed until the halftime break and made my break f

or the door, on my way out i said "screw that" i walked over and gave my nephew a hug and said "you did a good job"

later on i heard though the grape vine how unappropriate my actions were.

anyway imo you should just stay away, they have a reason for you to go there and its probably the hope that you will get sucked in again. just my opinion

kilroy2

caving in to persure and gilt trips will only delay the inevitable. I made the break walked away and even though i live in a small town with an abnormal population of dubbers, and get the cold shoulder when i get the mail, milk form the store ect. I feel more free that i have in my life. when i get up on sunday and sit on my porch and watch the birds in my back yard, and think of the dubbers pulling on monkey suits with a slice of toast in there mouth wile highlighting the answers to the tower , a chill runs up my spine. I think what if i went to hall today, s&m thoughts i know. It remindes me of a scripture " it is like a dog returning to it own vomit" that is how I have come to look at it. I would rather go to a pig farm and wallow in pig crap than go to a place that has caused so many so much harm. I takes a lot of self examination and strong will to get away from the mind control. and to go back is like a smoker taking another drag after he quits. my wife has lost here parants and I have lost my family but I believe what I am doing and not living for some one elses belifes or lies. I think for myself even if i am wrong I am wrong for myself.

ozziepost

just because you go to a meeting doesn't mean you believe the crap that gets sprouted off the platform. Then the following week ask them along to a church service which you are attending.

Yeah, that's right! They'll soon see where the "real" truth is found! sad to say, I think it unlikely they'd take up your offer.

Cheers, Ozzie

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