Agreed, people leave when they are ready. I left when the cognitive dissonance nearly killed me.
I, too, call it a church. At first I referred to "The Organization", but could no longer say that after the advent of JW . Org. Eliminating triggers is essential, the only thing I don't understand is why crosses trigger me.
I'm happy that you reconnected with your wife and are able to maintain a relationship with your parents. After being shunned for nearly four decades, my husband finally has some semblance of a relationship with his 90-year-old Dad. They speak on the phone every night.