I think the subject of this thread is quite good for what I've got to say, but I've got a question for Simon.
In this thread jelly said
Hopefully they soldiers didnt use radioactive bullets, if they had the kids might have mutated into 'flipper babies'.
There's any number of different ways one can interpret that given the context of the thread. I assumed the comment was along the lines of;
"oh, look at the concern, pity people didn't care this much when we fired 300 tons of depleted Uranium in the last Gulf War, I guess long slow death by radiation is better than a bullet"
I don't know what you thought the subtext of the post was, but you said;
You're comments are completely out of order and insensitive to the tragic loss of life. Would you like to hear people talling Sep 11 jokes? I suspect not.
jelly replied;
blow me simon, if you dont like my comments delete them. Thats what your good at.
Why have you now deleted jelly?
- Was it the implication you delete posts you don't like?
- Or the 'blow-me'.
- Both?
- The 'joke'?
It seems a bit heavy handed to me; jelly is one of the longest standing posters here (over three years) - but it is your board and you can obviously act in whatever fashion you see fit.
If you haven't deleted posts (I don't know, this is not some crafty vield accusation), then a far better way of 'getting jelly back' is to show that he had lied.
The 'blow-me' has been exceeded in rudeness on many occasions by others, so that wouldn't be a fair reason to delete him.
And as for the offensiveness; it was pretty clear there was a meaning under what jelly said; unlike Iron Eage who gets away with suggesting gays should be crucified and means it literally (without deletion of post or account).
Now Iron Eagle's post IS a clear breach of guidelines (hate speech, incitement to break the law, etc.), whereas jelly's breach isn't to me a clear case of breaching guidelines.
If you deleted him because of the flipper babies comment and he did mean what I think he meant, well, it's not really a fair deletion, is it? Do you know what he meant?
Even if you reacted badly 'cause you didn't get what he meant, and he reacted badly to your reaction, it's still not really a fair deletion as it was a misunderstanding.
Obviously working with cult survivors we need accountability and openess as we have so long been denied it in the Borg., so I hope you don't mind me asking for clarification of the reasons for jelly's deletion.
Of course, it's your board, and you don't have to justify yourself if you choose not to. But at the moment it does seem that you didn't fire a warning shot soon enough.
