OK, let's look at what is happening between you and your hubby on an emotional level rather than an intellectual one. Flinging around scriptures is simply a way to avoid talking about what is bothering you both. I really feel for your hubby, trembling, at his first exposure to this board. His strong emotional reaction is an indication that he is very afraid. Afraid of losing you, or afraid you might be right.
I am writing this in hopes you can work on your relationship with your hubby. Read some of LyinEye's early posts. When WildTurkey first expressed his doubts, she freaked out. Happily, they are both out, and together. LyinEye's story:
http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/7/25459/323759/post.ashx#323759
Ask him what he is afraid of. Don't let him accuse you of being at fault. For instance, "I am afraid...of losing you." is appropriate, "I am afraid you are breaking up our family." is not. Try and reassure him as much as possible. While your self-examination is absolutely neccessary for your mental health, it does not mean that you love him or your children any less. If you believe it, reassure him that your love for Jehovah and his Truth is intact.
If he is the kind of guy that can manage it, he needs to know what your fears are as well. You are afraid that this whole mess will end your relationship, right? Hopefully, he is the kind of man that can offer you some reassurances and understanding as well.
First of all, you guys have to face the boogeyman under the stairs. If you face it, and overcome it, you can have a good laugh about it afterwards.