by beckyboop 30 Replies latest jw experiences
Becky you showed more understanding and basic love for others than I have seen, in a long long time.
It is obvious you are a fine woman. Your statement that "we must learn to love ourselves before we can love others" is a basic fact and requirement for us all.
You have my admiration. You will do well in life by following your own feelings of right and wrong.
A very touching and educating story.
Outoftheorg.
Becky, I thoroughly enjoyed reading your story.
It was so uplifting, and you are to be commended for being the person you are.
You made not only the best of the situations you were faced with, but you were determined to get through it, and did.
It turned out incredibly well.
Becky, thanks for posting your story. It made my night.
I normally don't read threads/posts that are this long, but this one I did, what a moving story!!!!!!!
It really puts things in prospective!!
Thank you so much for taking the time to write it and share it with all of us!!
I am sending you and all those who really love you, hugs and kisses!!!!!!!!!!
Jes
Becky -- what a story! The content and your style had me glued to the story until it finished. I am so happy that you have expressed what a happy life is -- to be accepting of others, and to know what you want and to really go for it!!
I can relate to all that you said about trying to be the best possible Witness before, and being shunned by family now. But we cannot let the JW's control our lives -- try as they may, we must not let them dictate to us whether we'll be happy or not (despite the propaganda in their literature which says we're sad, misled, doomed, etc.)
Thanks for sharing your story. It was worth the wait!!
-- JEFF
Hi everyone, I'm chiming in as the ex-husband.
Of course I lived almost 11 years of Becky's story (including 8 years of marriage), so I know the details. I feel her passion in her writing, but your responses to Becky's post have really moved me.
I'm not going to tell a long story. I was active on Randy's forum, then his private Delphi forum and H2O, and they served their purpose for me.
What I can tell you now is that Becky is an amazing woman, and she (like all of us) is truly finding her way on this fantastic journey of life. She is deep and caring and witty. She's a true friend to those who allow her to be--I say this because being a true friend means being open and honest even if it is painful at times.
She has been a true friend to me. We have shared the delirium of true love, the satisfaction of 'serving God' together in all earnestness, the pits of despair at the prospect of losing our faith and all our treasured relationships, the pain of looking into each other's soul and confessing our own truths....
I'm eternally grateful for the joyful result: true friendship. We share friends, family, and newsy bits--the good and the bad. We are ecstatic for each other in our new intimate relationships and expect only the best for each other.
Life truly is grand, but to have friends like Becky along our individual paths of discovery is my wish for all of you, too. It requires superlatives as yet uncoined.
J2BF--Thank you for your kind words. My life has definitely been drastic--believe me I left out a lot! But life always goes on, and I finally decided I was going to be happy in it. Thankfully, I have had a wonderful network of friends who have always been there through thick and thin. And I hope too that my story will help others--because so many have helped me.((((((JOY)))))
((((((Matty)))))--The funny thing is about it taking me so long to write is that I LOVE to talk, but for some reason writing it out was difficult for me. And although being positive has been a struggle, the difference in how I feel inside now is tremendous. For me, it just boils down to liking people.
((((Maverick))))--It's my pleasure to share my story. And I hope to meet many of you someday from the board!
((((Wednesday))))--Thanks for reading it despite the length. Although many times I doubt how "good of a head" I have, when I look at the friends I have in my life I'm very grateful for what I DO have.
((((Naru))))--Thank you! My life has definitely been interesting--at least to me.
((((Irreverent))))--Thank you for your words! I can only hope that what we ALL go through can some day help someone else.
((((((Out of the Org)))))--I guess somewhere along the way I realized all I want is for people to love me for whoever I am--and I had to do it for others FIRST. It's interesting you said that about "following my own feelings of right and wrong". You hit the nail on the head with that one! Whenever I fight my true feelings, I always pay a huge price. Thank you for somehow recognizing that!
((((((Rayzor Blade)))))))))--I'm glad to have made your night--because when I got on here today and read all of the kind and uplifting words that everyone wrote, tears of joy just poured down my face! Thanks for telling me how it made you feel.
((((((((Jesika))))))))))--By the time I finished writing it, I thought there was no way anyone would read it all! Thanks so much for reading and sharing how it made you feel. I've not always been the best at replying when something moves me, but I'm getting better. I hope your life is going well--I have read several of your posts with some of the trials you were going through with your job and child. Thanks for the hugs and kisses!
(((((((Gopher)))))))--I always feel like I have a hard time expressing myself when I'm writing, but I guess I got my point across anyway! Thank you for reading it though! And I agree, I will not let them control my life any longer. I love my family, and they ALL know how much happier I am. I lost a lot of weight, so they can even see physical changes. (And whenver I run into jw "friends"--I let them know how happy I am, and none of them EVER are happy themselves, unfortunately.) It just really shows who's misled...
Thanks to all of you have have read and responded to my story. For whatever reasons, it took me a while to let it out. I'm so glad I did--because knowing that my trials could possibly help someone else makes it all worth it. I look forward to getting to know you all better, and hope to someday meet you in person.
Love,
Becky
I think we need to all get together and write a book..
Has anyone read any of the "Chicken Soup...... books?
We could get everyone to write their stories and put them in a book like those. Wouldn't that be something.... x-JW stories on the best seller list.
Franscio - I read your info on journalism, looks like you may have the expertise. : )
(((((((((( Becky )))))))))
Thanks so much for sharing your story with us. I am hoping I can hear more of it in person if I am able to attend the NE Apostafest. You seem as if you are a truly incredable individual. You certainly must be a great person if Intuit says so, seems as if he would know. I look foward to meeting you!
((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((CHARLIE))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
By the time I got to your post, the tears were pouring down! Thank you so much for our wonderful friendship. We've been through so much together (the good, bad, and ugly)--and we made it to the other side. I will never be able to express what your presence in my life means to me--but I think you know it anyway. I am so happy that we have been able to be happy for each other, and that we've had such an unconditional love.
And thanks again, for having the patience to deal with me while you were undergoing your own trials with the religion. You never pushed me to accept it--just let me figure it out with your reminders and little teasers of new found "enlightening" knowledge along the way. You have brought me such tremendous joy in a crazy life--and for that I am eternally grateful. I will love you always!
Becky