While we’re at it, here’s a question for an elder:
If a wife discovered a sext from another woman on her husband’s phone, shouldn’t she be questioned per the guidelines in the Sheparding the Flock book and brought before the committee to bring testimony? She’s a witness to the crime, and certainly they would want to know if it was the first time he’d done this (it wasn’t), the contents of the sext, and even details of their sex life…
For all of Lloyd’s protestations about how blowback to his affairs hurt his family, it’s quite odd that when describing his humiliation and grief in his JCs (all in his article, his book, and even in his letter to Dijana), he says nothing about her humiliation in being forced to talk to the elders about this.
Two possibilities come to mind, and they could both be true at the same time:
- Dijana had left him and went to Croatia. She declined to be interviewed by the UK elders and told them she was being counselled by the brothers back in Sisak regarding her husband’s infidelity.
- Lloyd’s JC had little or nothing to do with the sexting he claimed it was about. He got caught doing something else and his wife wasn’t a first hand witness to it, thus she didn’t need to be questioned.
As for the timeline, I think she left and quite possibly didn’t even return. If she did, it was only to help him move. Lloyd spent some time in Croatia attempting to woo her back and that was where the “discussions” occurred. It could have been her primary condition that he return alone and clean up the mess he made. During this time away, he lost his job and was close to being evicted for unpaid rent. This would explain how he seemed to get out of his lease so easily (he had already broken it by non-payment) and also the extensive debt he occurred. Another reason why Croatia was the better option was because no one would rent to them again.