gossip

Nancy1919

i was once was told by an jw elder it was a rule not to gossip or swear as it could harm someone, but i guess the new light allows this. It was bad enough when they were calling people worldly now i heard a jw gossiping about someone and it was mean.Just another reason i would never go back.

peacefulpete

Hey Nancy and welcome. Yes, the 'counsel' not to gossip is lost in a group dynamic rooted in judging and reporting the behavior, 'tendencies' and 'leanings' of others.

stan livedeath

welcome to the forum

LongHairGal

NANCY1919:

Yes, welcome to the forum.

Witnesses have perfected gossip to an art. There’s absolutely nothing like it! Sadly, they are lacking in Christian qualities like love, kindness and compassion.. Instead, they are filled with secret jealousies, pettiness and every other evil.. All under the mask of righteousness, of course.

Everybody got gossiped about there back when I was in - but it was people like me on the fringes who worked a full-time job that got panned and shunned the most! Also, I wasn’t raised in the religion and there was a subtle bias against people who were not.

I finally ‘Faded’ out of there after their 1995 Generation teaching. Time to leave. I knew they didn’t know what they were talking about and were just stringing everybody along!

Ugot2bekiddingme1

Gossip and gossiping is an ongoing problem with Jw's...in somebody's business is always the thing of a pioneer or an elderette. Talk talk talk so much about my family and me that I have three special needs talks under my belt...because of people talking.

SnakesInTheTower

Three forms of communication in the Borg:

Telephone

Telegraph

Tell a Witness

Snakes

Ron.W.

Welcome Nancy - you will be pleased to know there's no gossip here, just genuine chat and friendly interaction.

Beth Sarim

Welcome to the forum

Biahi

Welcome Nancy. Yes, the gossip and rumor mill is alive and well in JW world.

Phizzy

Hi Nancy ! and a warm welcome here !

I was born in to the Cult in 1950, and all my life was conscious that Gossip was rife constantly among the J.W's. To be fair, but not totally excuse the individual J.W's, Gossip is ubiquitous throughout Human Society.

But the counsel was always that J.W's should be better than "worldly" people, and IMHO they were a hell of a lot worse ! Yes, humans tend to gossip, but it was a HUGE part of every J.W conversation !

The trouble was that confidential matters, many that should not have become known outside of an Elders Meeting, became common knowledge as soon as a few J.W's got together, there was no confidentiality.

We used to know which Elders wife would spill the beans, and her husband would as well ! It wasn't a matter of him telling her, and trusting her not to repeat what she knew. Both of them seemed to think that telling tales on their fellow J.W's made them look better, and of course it was all part of the horrible judgmental attitude that they have. And of course, as is common with Gossip, the story got changed in the telling.

Decades before I left I noticed the contrast between a J.W congregation and a "worldly" Club I belonged to, and still do in fact. The Club was and is a warm friendly place, where you always get a warm welcome from all, whereas only a few welcome you as you enter a K.H, and though a bit of what we could call gossip goes on, it is never malicious, or heavily judgmental, and confidences are kept, not spread far and wide.

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