I wish the best Mulan. You and Dave seem to be okay with whatever happens. So maybe you're smarter than I. Good luck.
As for me, I would fight being DF'd, not because I want to go back but because I don't like the idea of someone telling me who I can or cannot talk with. If/when elders come to our house to do their business, I will fight. I'll be damned if I'll let a couple of elders come into my house and lift their leg on me and mine without firing off a few shots of my own.