I had a friend that became a JW. Actually, his family was always floating on the outskirts of being JW's and his brother was a full fledged one. But my friend Dennis was never baptised and his parents were DF'd. He was the type that changes his tastes like he changes underwear. One day he would be so into something and the next day he would hate it and be into something else. It was the same with "The Truth". He'd be all gung ho and pious acting and then a month later he'd be cursing like a sailor. I got sucked into the religion by him and his brother but as I detailed in my first few posts here, I left it about 5 years later. I slowly fell away and never really told Dennis. It was none of his business.
But anyway, we remained good friends for about 10 years. One night we were chating online and he invited this girl into out chat room and we all were chatting for a while and then he had to leave. Well me and this girl, Jenni, stayed and chatted for the entire night. She is now my fiance! Well we continued to chat with each other and then we were talking on the phone. I took my vacation week and visited her and we just fell in love. We decided that we would move in together and be together forever. So I e-mailed Dennis and told him that my address would be changing and explained to him in a very cordial way that we fell in love and that I would be moving to be with her and thanked him for inviting her into the chatroom that night. Jenni did the same.
He responded with the most hatefilled replies I could ever imagine! They were never together but he would try to preach to her and get her to convert but she said it just made her faith even stronger. They would debate back and forth but he would be so insulting to her and then try to get her to convert. Personally, I think he wanted her to convert so he wouldn't feel guilty about trying to get a relationship going with her. But she wasn't falling for that. This person is so racked with guilt over everything he does and it's all thanks to the JW's. He is the most conflicted person I've ever met. He replied to me with a list of insults about her and how stupid she is and all of this and this was all just a big master plan of his to dump her off on me so he wouldn't have to deal with her anymore. My reply was, "Thanks. So if this was all your big master plan then why are you pissed off that it succeeded? Could it be because it WASN'T part of your plan? Could it be because you are pissed off that I have decided to have a life and not be trapped in a soul sucking religion that deprives its members of any pleasure and semblence of normal life?"
That sent him over the edge. I had a bunch of stuff that he was storing for me and he e-mailed me and said that he burned it all or sold it on E-Bay. I just replied, "That's fine. What a fine Christian display. Do you think Jehovah approved of that? Do you think the elders would approve? What a fine testimony to what the Witnesses are truly like: A den of vipers with no real love for anybody. You have just proved everything I said right. Thank you for that."
I never heard another word from him until I tracked him down on the net on a message board and started antagonizing him for fun. But I think he was just pissed off because my life was moving forward and he is forever trapped in the same frame of mind, body and spirit: never changing. He also was pissed because I would have access to information about him that he tried to keep hidden from me. Things that he talked to Jenni about that he never mentioned to me. I never even knew that the two of them were talking for 2 years. So he was pissed that I found out about a side of him that he tries to hide from everyone. He tries to be human and have a life but then the JW guilt kicks in and he rebels against whatever he was into and regresses back to his JW ways. Back and forth back and forth.
But I have washed my hands of him and my life is SOOOO much better now than it was. And after going back to my home town last year I tracked him down and he is still living in the same shack and working at the same dead-end job. Almost 4 years later and he is still the same exact person. It's very pathetic. Only death will open his eyes but then it will be too late for him. To quote his favorite scripture, didn't we perform all these great works in your name? And Jesus will say, "Get away from me you worker of lawlessness for I never knew you."
