I didn't think my JW family could find another way to hurt me but... (page 3)

Ghost of Esmeralda

((((((((everyone))))))))) thank you so much for your support, and believe me, I'm hearing you about cutting all contact off between my child and these people. I hope my sister enjoyed the evening, because it is the last time, for a very, very long time she will see my child.

If my ex lets my sister get anywhere near my daughter, he'll be hearing from my lawyer. (for those who wanted to know: my daughter said that my ex had no idea they'd got a dress for her before she got there, and put it on. I'm inclined to believe it; I think that is a line that even he would be afraid to cross!Besides, this has my sister's M.O. all over it )

I would have moved away loooooooong ago, believe me Francois, but unfortunately I share custody with my ex and can't leave the state. But he will be finding out that if he allows my family contact with the child outside my presence, he will find his ass back in court faster than you can say "judicial committee".

(((((((((((Uzzah, Seven, Safe4kids))))))))))))) I don't know where I'd be without you guys. Thanks for calling me, Seven, your timing was perfect. I needed to hear your voice more than I realized. You are my family.

It's amazing me, even friends of mine who have never been JW's are echoing the comments you all are making about cutting my sister off from my child. One friend said "I have never heard of anything so passive aggressive in my entire life." ...and she has a psych degree!

I have never seen my husband this angry. He's a mild person, and it takes a lot to get to him, but he looked at me and said "Your sister is done. She is done doing this to you."

Thanks again everyone for your love and support. I'm hanging on to it like a lifeline tonight. The other day I couldn't even cry about the wedding, tonight, I can't stop.

love,

essie

LDH

Essie,

I am so, so , so, sorry.

These bastards wear their hate on their sleeves, masked by a thin veil of believing they are justified in turning children against unbelieving parents in "God's Name."

I am so mad with you, I am seething right along with you. I just told my daughter tonight, even if I allow her to go visit my parents again, she will NOT attend that miserable bitch of a Kingdom Hall.

I am SO with your husband on this one.

Lisa

Disgusted Class

nightwarrior

(((((((((((((((Essie))))))))))))))

Believe me, I know what you mean... I am at a loss for words..just know that I also feel your anger and utter frustration. I hate these people who profess that 'love' abounds among them - utter BS... and this is just another example.

I am so sorry for you.

Wish I could hug you((((((((()))))))))))))x million.

Your friendMrs Nightwarrior

obiwan

OK, I'm steaming here and I don't even know your daughter. Ya know it comes down to being curtious to one another...Oh I forgot were talking jw's here. It won't happen but I would ask that a public apology be made to the cong. It's pretty low when people feel they need to use children to feel superior.

Angharad

((((((Essie)))))

I'm so sorry, its unbelievable the depths they will stoop to, using a child like this to hurt you. They are so selfish because they are not just hurting you but also your daughter by putting her in that position.

Your daughter sounds like a great kid, who loves you very much

dedalus

I honestly believe that, at a certain point, Witnesses begin to look for new ways to hurt family members who have left. Years go by, and if disfellowshipping and shunning haven't brought you back to the pack, tail shamefully tucked between your legs, they look for something else, some other kind of deception or emotional brutality, not so much to help you back as to kick you in the face for leaving and being happier than they are. For me, it was my father saying that he didn't want to embrace me, if we should ever happen to meet, which is less likely than being struck twice in the ass by lightening on a Thursday. Where the hell is it written that embracing DA'd or DF'd family members is taboo?

I'm really sad to read about this recent subterfuge your family has perpetuated against you, Es. They've stolen a precious moment from you -- the participation of your daughter in a family ceremony -- something for which every mother has the right to be present. There's no getting that back. Hopefully some secret, evil renegade will smuggle away some photographs for you.

And to put this all in a Witness perspective, imagine how a Witness parent would react if his or her daughter was taken by a disfellowshipped person to a "worldly" wedding (this is already so improbable it would never happen), a wedding between two "unbelievers," and then made part of the wedding party without the parent's presense, knowledge, or consent? Oh, there would be some furious Old Testament hell to pay for that!

Of course, you took the high road, sending your daughter to a Kingdom Hall when you know Witness children will never see the inside of any church, and this is what they did. I'm really, really indignant in your behalf, Es.

Dedalus

Mary

Essie, these people are insane!! If I were you, I'd march right over to their houses, absolutely FREAK on them and tell them to their faces that they are worse than what the Pharisees were and that YOU want NOTHING more to do with THEM. I'd also maybe give them a bit of a scare and tell them that if you catch any of them near your daughter ever again, you'll have restraining orders put against each and every one of them as well as a possible lawsuit.

Yes we can all see how loving and kind and Christian all these people are. Surely this is another fine indication that Jehovah is NOT blessing this Organization.............

Xena

Sorry to hear about what happened to you! They totally suck don't they? What kills me is they don't even take into consideration the effects this has on your daughter...tore my heart out when you said how she cried and said she was sorry for not wearing the dress you bought her..what kind of people put a 7 year old in that position????????

Stick to your guns on not letting them see her anymore....they don't deserve that right or priviledge!

{{{{{Essie}}}}}}}

Shakita

How sad to put your seven year old through this all.

I can't add anymore to what has been said here, seems like you have a lot of real friends here. Your husband seems to be on your side with this one...that's great. It should help you keep your daughter away from the harmful influence of your sister.

Just a thought. Your daughter is very young and might not remember all these terrible things that she is being made to go through thanks to this wonderful cult....you might want to start a journal to give her later in life so she knows exactly what horrors this cult has put you all through....it will keep her from making the same painful mistakes in her own life.

Take care.

Mrs. Shakita

calamityjane

(((((((((Essie))))))))))))))). I know exactly how livid you are. It ceases to amaze me how despicable

these people can be. And in their self-righteous way they believe they are doing the right thing, and see nothing wrong with it. The "seeing nothing wrong with it", really really urks me. Sounds like your family is as back stabbing as mine.

My mom has done some behind the back things with my daughters and I, which really put a wedge between my daughters and I. It's a long story, If you want to hear it you can personal message me and I'd be happy to tell you my experiences with these devious minded wandering in the dark dubs.

I finally cut off ties with my family last year, it got to a point I couldn't trust my mom with my own daughter. I had it out with my mom, told her exactly the way I felt, and if she every wanted to see her grandchildren again, she would have to phone me and abide by my wishes, my words to her were "I can't trust you as far as I could throw you, your a lying snake in the grass". Pretty strong words to tell a mom, but I was at the end of my rope with her.

cj

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