Before I get to the evidence of the claim above, I need to offer the following explanation. Most of you will know exactly where I am going with this story, but I'd like the opinions of those who don't have any idea. They might be free from the kinds of biases that I know I already have. So here goes:
The following DID NOT HAPPEN TO BILLY GRAHAM, but something very much like it did happen to a respected elder with whom some of us are well acquainted. (The years I mention are accurate, or very close, at least.) I'm using Billy Graham's name in vain, so I apologize to him. I am trying to avoid overly prejudicing the case, so I have changed the name of the accused to someone for whom many of us would more easily consider truly innocent.
In '88 the Grahams pretty much adopted, a 10-year-old orphan girl. According to Mrs. Graham, when the girl was 15 years old, around '94, she confessed to Mrs. Graham that the Reverend had kissed and touched her inappropriately. When the girl allegedly said "But I'm not your wife" the Reverend had said it was normal that a little girl like her could have "almost all the privileges of a wife." The girl allegedly confessed to Mrs. Graham that the Reverend had also said that he touches other females to see which ones "respond." I think, the exact quote was: "I touch this one and that one, and if she responds I take her to me, and if not I float on to others." Mrs. Graham, during the case, said that upon hearing the story, she confronted her husband, and that he admitted it was true and said he was sorry.
Of course, Reverend Graham flatly denied this, during the trial, and the judge agreed with Rev. Graham's attorney that this should be stricken out. The reason, according to the judge, was because the events in question for this case had to have happened no more than 7 years ago. Even though the attorneys let Mrs. Graham refer back one extra year, this still wasn't enough to get those events in question admitted into the case.
Throughout the case, Mrs. Graham, among other things, accused him of the following:
- accused him of improperly kissing and touching the teenage girl
- said he had admitted to the truthfulness of the teenager's confession to her
- accused him of sending all the other workers home and would keep the girl alone with him in his office (a few blocks from their home) even late at night
- said she had personally caught him on more than one occasion alone with the girl, and that one time he caught him in her room with the door locked behind them.
- she claimed that he had committed "indignities" with the girl.
- said that she had confronted him and stated her objections on the grounds that it was wrong, that it hurt her deeply, and if found out it would ruin the reputation for the good work he was doing.
- she said that more than once she had objected to his being alone with this teenage girl (and also with another young girl in the house). She claimed that she said "What kind of name will be attached to this place if you do that that kind of thing?" and that he would just get angry.
It would later be argued that her accusations may not be true because she didn't actually separate from him until '97, fully 3 years after the incident of the alleged confession. In fact, she had met with a committee of elders to try to help patch things up between them in '97. At the trial, Mrs. Graham claimed it was for financial reasons that she couldn't leave him earlier, and the evidence that he had threatened her since '95 with a lack of financial maintenance was implicitly admitted by Reverend Graham and therefore Mrs. Graham actually won her case against him.
Surprisingly, in court, Reverend Graham indirectly admitted that his wife's accusations had some merit as he attempted in court to explain those alleged "indignities," as merely an innocent but special closeness with the child, that he kissed her goodnight, that he was the one who was called upon to administer medicines when she was sick, and he even gave an innocent explanation for why he had been caught in her room with the door locked behind them.
To clarify, Mrs. Graham's attorney had said, "We make no charge of adultery" and, "You don't mean that your husband was guilty of adultery." She answered, "No."
Some have pointed to the lack of the adultery charge as evidence that Mrs. Graham actually thinks he is innocent. But some circumstantial evidence leaves others to think Reverend Graham looks more guilty. The girl who turned 16 later in '94 has since married and Rev. Graham obviously had a hand in a reassignment that put her husband in an important position oversees (before the trial). But she and her husband left the religion (and the assignment, of course) shortly afterward. Oddly, shortly after their reassignment, Reverend Graham wrote something about it and spent more time praising the wife than her husband. Even more oddly, when they left the religion, he inexplicably wrote that he believed it was the wife who had turned the husband away.
If this really had happened to Billy Graham, would you assume he was guilty or innocent of paedophilia or child molestation? Would we give him more or less of the benefit of the doubt based on his respectability?
If you got this far... thanks. There's more to come.
Gamaliel