Easy, sleazy bimbos (page 3)

nilfun

How hard is it for married men to resist virginal bimbos? (irresistible sirens that they are)

YoursChelbie

Hi. This observation by our Canadian poster sums up my sentiments quite well:

The man has to protect himself against her because her intentions are destructive. In my opinion, it's not worth putting your family and your finances at risk for a bit of attention from an attractive woman .

I appreciate everyone's reply very much. I gained a lot of insight.

YoursChelbie

outoftheorg

Wow Teenyuck!! Seems like I pushed one of your hot buttons. Got some issues regarding virginity??

Actually they did tell me. I of course had no idea if they were or were not virgins. My first wife tells me she was sexually active before we were married, a few months before she abandoned me and our children. My second wife told me after many years of marriage. She had become suicidal and the counselor blamed it on her molestations by her brother and the mothers boyfriends. All good jw's by the way. At this point, I found out about the molestations. If she had not loudly proclaimed to be a virgin, it would not have been a surprise. I assured her that it was not an issue that upset me and she still had my respect. Even though, I was disappointed that she did not trust me enough to have told me of the many problems and her mistreatment in her family. Instead I was only told about how wonderful and respectable they all were.

No the issue of virginity is not that important to me. Being honest with ones marriage mate is.

I hope you recover from my first post.

Outoftheorg

Englishman

I do recall getting a tug once from some brown-eyed female with whom I worked some years back. Actually, it was a lot of tugs, and even resulted in her asking me where I was going on my next training course so's she could turn up and stay over. I felt flattered at first and then I felt extremely intimidated.

The give away was that she kept asking me about my marriage partner. I realised then that this was some sort of contest, she was more interested in putting one over on HL than she was in me.

I'm glad now that I stayed clear.

Englishman.

Introspection

What are you following through on? Are you already in a sexual realtionship with her? If not then your a free agent. How does she fell about you? Is she following through with it? Sounds like to me you have strong feelings for her already. True?

Yes Mecurious there is strong feelings, though I'm actually not attached. I guess I'm just seeing where things go. The feelings are mutual, but it is really still in the early stages. By this I don't mean being passive as if I'm waiting around, but I am actually seeing what comes naturally.

I don't want to hijack here, so in terms of what we're talking about I would have to go back to my point about integrity, and for me that's what it means. I am certainly free as we all are, and I choose to go at it one at a time - actually I don't think I could do otherwise, I think that's what comes naturally and I'm probably hardwired that way. It used to be that I thought it might be cool to be a wild and swinging guy, but as I aged and learned more about myself I see that just isn't me. So not only am I following through in this particular relationship, I am following through on my own nature actually. I will say this though, obviously if the other person doesn't feel this way then it's pretty much incompatible, and if that proves to be the case then maybe I will try for a long distance relationship with a guru.

gitasatsangha

What ultimately prevents a "taken" man from giving in to a sleazy woman's advances?

Visualizing her dirty underwear in your sink when you wake up.

Introspection

In reading Katie's post it became clear to me it's actually very simple. YoursChelbie you said:

Does the whole matter depend on the extent of his love and devotion to his significant other?

A question you have to ask is, was the relationship actually based on love and devotion in the first place? (for him that is) Or is it about how someone else makes you feel? If it's just about how you feel, then of course when someone new and exciting comes along you'll go for it, because it's really about you feeling good.

Now mind you, I don't say this as if to say how bad that person is, or even that they are weak and insecure - but it could literally be a matter of not knowing any better. What I mean by that is basically an inability to see beyond a narrow scope of awareness, the big breasts that are in front of you at the moment for example - although that would present a pull for most men, most men will also think twice for various reasons not limited to an existing relationship, if for no other reason than to think it's too good to be true. You can't have love for someone if you're not even aware of them, so I'm not even talking about just being aware of a rule of not cheating or whatever, but loving someone as they are. The easiest way to give in to sexual temptation or anything is for your attention to be so narrow as to block out everything else, so that only the craving exists in your world at the moment, and from there it's simply a logical move to satisfy that craving through what's immediately available.

But anyway, the point is if it's a matter of feeling good, then is it really any surprise that they go to someone else? It's like a new drug dealer or something, their stuff is better - or atleast easily accessible.

ballistic

Just wanna know where to find these "bimbos"? I think you're just making it up!!!

SYN

The question I have is: What ultimately prevents a "taken" woman from giving in to a sleazy man's advances? For example, is it possible for a woman already in a relationship, to turn down an attractive fellow employee who makes passes at her and lavishes attention on her? Can a woman's sense of commitment be enough to prevent her from being a two-timer? Does the whole matter depend on the extent of his love and devotion to his significant other?
I'd like to hear honest responses from the women of this forum.

Amazing what a bit of gender-bending can do to a post isn't it! How're you doing YoursChelbie! We haven't spoken for ages...

Abaddon

SYN; you beat me to the inversion, damn it!!

We all know at least one. They're in the work place, at social gatherings. They are just about everywhere that men are--- including the internet. They hit on single men, married men, old and young. Theirs is a game and an inflated ego the prize. The majority of the time, people get hurt.

Without inverting the genders, as SYN did, I'd say this is not really a fair reflection of society. Some people - men and women - will quite happily have sex with people who have a supposedly exclusive sexual arrangement with another.

THEY ARE NOT DOING THE WRONG THING. What promises have they broken? It is the person that cheats that does the wrong thing.

What are people? Animals that can be lead by their genitalia? Sometimes, apparently, yes. And then it is the person who cheated who bares the responsibility, not the one who encouraged them to cheat. It's not a modern thing; blame someone else for your own mistake, or blame someone other than the person who owed you fidelity for them not being faithful.

I suppose it's easier to think that some wicked person waved their ya-yas and hypnotised our lover, but I think we all know that if your lover cheats on you, it's more about the relationship than the himbo or bimbo, unless it is characteristic behaviour of someone who will cheat on their partner without caring.

The question I have is: What ultimately prevents a "taken" man from giving in to a sleazy woman's advances?

Not wanting to. SImple.

For example, is it possible for a man already in a relationship, to turn down an attractive fellow employee who makes passes at him and lavishes attention on him?

Of course it's possible. Hell, there's a girl in my office 7 yards away from me who is an absolute stunner, with a sweet personality. I'm happy with my realtionship; she could strip and spread and I'd have no problem saying no. If I was unhappy... well, I know from experienece that I am weaker in those situations... BUT IT WOULD STILL BE MY FAULT, and would probably be a symptom of the relationship (as I've grown out of screwing around).

Don't blame the bimbos or himbos; have they broken any promises?

Can a man's sense of commitment be enough to prevent him from being a two-timer?

No, if the realtionship is in tatters then even if someone is very commited they might give in, as if you're starved of love and affection and have been emotionally abused by your partner, you end up with a world of hurt inside, and sometimes are attracted to another for what they can give you that you need but don't get.

Does the whole matter depend on the extent of his love and devotion to his significant other?

No, it depends on the person's own moral integrity AND the status of the relationship. Some people will cheat in a perfectly good relationship, others will only cheat if they are so unhappy with their relationship they see a new relationship as their only hope of happiness.

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