Thanks for your replies and welcome to the forum, Andie.
I do believe some people are in these sort of relationships because they may have learned to be victims from their disfunctional home life.
But others, such as the guy who allowed his wife to rule/ruin his entire life, as mentioned in the second post, has never developed the self-confidence to tell her off. Some guys are like that. They take a lot of abuse basically sitting down and get taken advantage of just because they don't have the balls to tell the bitch to climb up another tree.
YoursChelbie