by minimus 41 Replies latest jw friends
A harshly worded criticism from someone I love or respect, hurts.
A gently worded criticism from someone I love or respect, I appreciate and try to learn from.
But all criticisms from those I neither love nor respect, are like water on a ducks back.
IW
Someone mentioned that they wished we still had the "ignore" feature still. I'm glad we don't. I think that we all can learn from one another, even if we think someone is misjudging us. Island Woman expressed my feelings perfectly. Some are quite eager to slam a person because they don't see eye to eye on matters. Some get oversensitive and hurt feelings all the time. I've mentioned in the past, that I personally feel that if someone tries to bully me or misstate my comments, I will defend myself. I have been criticized for asking only questions, not being that deep, being a troll or "trollish", writing in all caps, not divulging more of myself, tangling with revered posters, touting Ray Franz, being a former elder, not disassociating myself at this time,etc..........Considering, I think I handle criticism pretty well. On some of these matters, I've made conscious adjustments. On others, I've let it roll off my back.
Someone mentioned that they wished we still had the "ignore" feature still.
That would have been me. I do miss that little + or - beside the posters names, but not because I just "hate" people and want nothing to do with them. I agree that almost everyone here can learn something from almost everyone else - that is a valid point. However, when individuals become caustic and unkind toward others, and begin attacking and insulting, it was a very handy way of putting someone on a temporary or permanent "time out", without having them deleted, edited, and without needing to reply in kind to the person. It was a tool for people to "moderate" the forum on their own. I don't see anything wrong with that, particularly if the person you are putting on "ignore" is disruptive, abusive or just a big-mouthed meanie. I wish I had something like that for my husband sometimes.
Honestly, I only ever used it once, when someone for whom I had a fair measure of respect went into a foul-mouthed rant against people who dared to speak against the American military. Actually, no, I used it twice, because I wanted to see if I could ignore my own posts.
Love, Scully
I don't see anything wrong with that, particularly if the person you are putting on "ignore" is disruptive, abusive or just a big-mouthed meanie. I wish I had something like that for my husband sometimes.
Me too.
My curiousity would get the better of me, especially if everyone else was responding to the comments that I chose to ignore.
minimus writes:
My curiousity would get the better of me, especially if everyone else was responding to the comments that I chose to ignore.
Well that's just your nature.... being curious... right?? Seriously though, since it is self-directed moderation, there is the option to unignore the person and then reignore them if they were still being jerks. Y'all ain't missin' nuthin' really, minimus, unless you want to.... But if you were really.... and I mean REALLY... frosted at someone... you could gain a lot of satisfaction from clicking that little button over and over and over and over.... (yes, I know... doesn't take much to amuse me... LOL) Love, Scully
Scully, I've always been the type of person that would rather know my options. If I knew that on August 22, 2009, I was going to suddenly keel over, I'd rather know. If someone is defaming me or is ridiculing me, I prefer to respond to it (even if it means a locked thread once in a while).
Pretty good from persons I respect, and who I know care enough about me personally to be sincere in offering constructive criticism.
People who are doing it just to get "one up" can just go straight to, well, you know.
francois
It has to be constructive. rather, I have to feel it is constructive...so I guess I don't take criticism too well.
Not too well, which is why I never read nor post to those "who do you like best/most want to meet/think is a hottie/etc" threads.
Actually, if I've accomplished something that I'm happy about and someone only focuses on a little mistake or what I haven't YET accomplished, then I get hurt (and pissed!).
If I'm criticized for hurting someone's feelings, however, I take it very well and try to accept responsability for how I made the person feel, regardless of my motive. Then, I try to make amends. (Unless I MEANT to be a bitch !)
And I miss the ignore button, too.
outnfree
