What did you miss the most while being a kid in the Borg?

by Jessica Rabbit 23 Replies latest jw friends

  • little witch
    little witch

    I missed not having any self-worth. Kids were treated so bad in the borg. Just, less than human. I grew up not having a voice, about even the most miniscule area of my childhood. It has taken me years to find my voice, and to realize my ability to say ''no''.

    I love my (4) kids sooo much, and have raised them to speak their minds, and make some of their own choices. It is not unusual for one of them to cuss, or yell at us, slam a door. I just smile, and say, thats my boy, or atta girl! LOL

    Now please don't tell me I over-compensated, you'll make me mad........

  • DannyBear
    DannyBear

    Perhaps a better question for me would be 'what I wished I'd missed' as a jw youth?

    Waking up every school morning dreading the obligatory homeroom flagsalute.

    Hoping I never would run into a friend(aquiantance) from school during door to door preaching.

    Having the Vice Principal of the school march down to the mid section of the auditorium and pull me out in front of the entire audience, for not standing when the 'national anthem' was played.

    The year after year embarassment of having one of your parents come to school to explain away my non participation in holiday festivities, or some other jw tabu event or field trip.

    The pure agony of not being able to go to a friends party when invited. Knowing I would miss the opportunity to see and be close to beautiful Kimmy........ who i desperately wanted to play 'spin the bottle' with....oh the shame.

    Every vestiage of normal childhood development and experience, ruined by the guilt or fear of guilt, the ominous ever present mind game drilled into you..."Danny don't bring reproach on Jehovah and his organization"....."what would Jesus do?"

    To feel no matter how hard I tried to be cool, I could never really be. I knew deep down I was special in the wierdest sense of word. Apart from everyone and everything......hating the fact that I wanted to be a good jw when around the 'brother's and sister's'....yet wanting to scheme everywhich way to avoid the consequences of being one.

    The list by no means ends here.....jw/borg life infects every moment of ones life from cradel to grave. Scars from this henious religion heal but never fail to fester, no matter how many years you have been out.

    Danny

  • little witch
    little witch

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  • blondie
    blondie

    Cartoons!

  • doodle-v
    doodle-v

    I agree Blondie......

    I would sneak and watch ThunderCats and Transformers, HeMan and SheRA. Boy... If i got caught, there would have been hell to pay!

    I missed a lot of cool movies that I now have to catch up on. My husband is always like "what! you've never seen The Exorcist?" and im like "uhhh no, I was in the borg, so i thought if i watched it i would get possessed by the deeeeemeeenz!"

    I couldnt go to any school dances or to my prom and i couldnt even be a camp counselor (still bitter at the last one)

    I would walk home from school and dread it if a boy was walking the same direction and started talking to me, because i would be so scared that JW's from my cong would drive by, see me and express "concern" to my parents at the meeting that night that I was engaging in bad association. *heavy sigh*

    typing this makes me realized how much i missed

  • caligirl
    caligirl

    For me, it was holidays & birthdays, because I knew that all my aunts & uncles & cousins were together on those days. I always wanted to be together with my family, and we got to see them so rarely because holidays were the times that everyone made time to get together. And our extended family was ALWAYS trying to work around it. They would offer to do all the presents and celebration related activities in the morning and could we please come in the afternoon so that everyone got to see us. Nope. No good, because the REASON that they were all together was for the birthday or holiday, so it could still be viewed as participation.

    I remember the few times we went to my grandmothers around Christmas time, and how I would stare at her tree for hours thinking about how I would decorate it if it was mine and wishing that there would be a gift under the tree for me, or that I could put gifts under there for everyone else to show them I really cared. (I was always careful that my parents didn't catch me looking and to act like it meant nothing). So now, one of the things that I cherish the most is Christmas, because for me, it stands for all the family time missed I out on while growing up and is a symbol to me of the traditions I hope to start for my children to always be able to hold on to.

  • Thirdson
    Thirdson

    Definitely being normal.

    Why did we always have to be different? Dress different, wear a tie and jacket on Saturday and Sunday mornings. Sit outside of religious assembly at school and face the questions almost every day. Not celebrating holidays, having few friends because they were worldly, not taking part in after school activities. I lost my Saturday mornings, missed TV on Tuesday and Thursday nights (when the best shows were on) missed relaxing on a Friday night because we had to sit through an hour of the family Bible study (Watchtower study of the most boring kind). Mom and dad were proper JWs and we had to have a regular family study, (pretty much from as far back as I can remember until I left home). In addition we had periods of considering the Day's Text at supper and doing the weeks Bible reading after supper as well.

    Worst of all I put my son through some of this until he was 7. At least for the past 8 years he has had a pretty normal life and a somewhat better life than I could ever had had.

    Thirdson

    PS I have Birthday, Christmas and Thanksgiving photos to show that life is pretty normal in the Thirdson family.

  • Mary
    Mary

    Many normal things, like birthdays, Christmas, not even being able to make anything on a school project for Mothers and Fathers Day!!

    The biggest disappointment though was when I was in grade 6 Music class. We were all tested for being a bell-ringer for Christmas time and they wanted to see if you could read and follow the notes. I passed with flying colours and the teacher picked me to ring the F-sharp bell and the C bell. I was absolutely devestated when I had to tell her I couldn't participate because it was "supporting a pagan holiday." I really, really wanted to be a bell-ringer and I think it would have helped me with my low self-esteem to be able to do something and do it well.

    I never forgot that and it still pisses me off.

  • Jessica Rabbit
    Jessica Rabbit

    Hamas, you make me laugh. I love all of you guys. I am having a blast with this.

    I am so glad I asked the question "What did you miss the most?"All of you touched on some of my same memories. We ought to send this to Dr. Phil or somethin'. It really is sad to hear some of your responses because I can hear the emotions in your words. These experiences we had as kids are what make us the way we are today in certain situations. I swear I am still trying to figure out how to interact with "worldly" people at work. I feel so backwards sometimes. I too remember wanting to be in Choir. Oh, and to be a cheerleader. That reminds me, I had to sit in the stupid library every time there was a pep rally. God, I felt like such a nerd! Danny, I remember the feeling you described about the National Anthem. Even when I was older and at a ballgame, I wanted to crawl under my chair. And Thirdson, I used to ask the same question, "Why do we have to be different." It really messes with your head. It taught me to be arrogant around non-believers, it sure didn't teach me to be neighborly.

    Traci

  • RunningMan
    RunningMan

    Man, I don't know where to start the list.

    I suppose school sports, and to a lesser extent, dances were what I missed the most.

    But, coming in a close second was university.

    Followed by Christmas. Yeah, I could celebrate it now, but the magic of Christmas for a child just wouldn't be there.

    Dating, growing up socially retarded.

    Having Saturday mornings free.

    Meeting night TV shows. Boy, being sick or snowed in was like getting a gift.

    Oh, and my high school graduation. I won some pretty nice awards that were mailed to me.

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