by minimus 85 Replies latest jw friends
im fine.
the only thing i can complain about is the total lack of direction i had in school and in finding a career because i was led to believe the world wouldn't be here when i grew up. also i dont think i would have ever done drugs if i wasnt raised a jw but the only way it would effect me is for security clearences.
no big deal, im over everything else by now i think
Minimus:
Isn't interesting that some people don't feel their lives were completely ruined by JW's. Many honestly admit that ordinary parental neglect, alcoholism, etc. were more influential on their lives than a "high-control" religion.
Before joining the jw's, I came out of a dysfunctional family. Dealing with emotional and abuse issues. Along with parental neglect and abandonment.
So I fed right into the org. and married a man like my father. Like the family of orgin did'nt deal with feelings. I fit right in the org not dealing with feelings~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Fortunately I've done extensive therapy. And continue to do so. It's about the journey not the destination~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
I am happy to be where I am today!!!!!
OCW
I am pretty tapped in the head.
It's like I told Butterknife Of Duh the other day, we have all got screws loose in our heads. People from work tell me that they always thought I was mad because of work, but since I have left they agree that I am pretty much screwed up anyway.
I try to work out of it, but sometimes I get bad spells. lol.
Isn't interesting that some people don't feel their lives were completely ruined by JW's.
That may be true, proplog, but the WTS didn't help people emotionally or spiritually to deal with those issues.
I figure it's like they didn't shoot the person, but then they didn't call for an ambulance or administer first-aid.
Blondie
Many honestly admit that ordinary parental neglect, alcoholism, etc. were more influential on their lives than a "high-control" religion.
Perhaps it is easier to rid yourself of the WTS teachings than it is to undo the damage caused by parents.
proplog2,
With all due respect, I see some expressions in your comment that could be interpreted as dishonest.
Isn't interesting that some people don't feel their lives were completely ruined by JWs.
"Some people" = Just two of the above persons claim that JWs didn't make their lives worse.
"Completely ruined" = That isn't the issue. The question is to what extent our lives have been screwed up.
Many honestly admit that ordinary parental neglect, alcoholism, etc. were more influential on their lives than a "high-control" religion.
Who are these "many"? It seems to me you have an insatiable desire to see white when the only thing in front of you is totally black.
Only a naive person would brush aside the fact that JWs, more than most religious persons, are noteworthy for family divisions, suicides, messed-up personalities, neglected education, lack of qualifications for making a comfortable living, etc., etc.
Freedom 96, YOU MUST NOT SAY THAT YOU ARE NOT MESSED UP BECAUSE OF BEING A WITNESS.
Well,I had an alcohlic father and I know that has done damage to me. He died when I was 14 and he was one reason I started to study the JW religion,I was hoping to see him as a good loving father.
Being a witness has done enough damage,I have said this before,I developed an anixety disorder.Over the past yr sence I have been comming here and other sites I go to have been a huge help for me getting over the WTS teachings.On top of another problem I have been dealing with that I started about a yr before I left...that is a constant struggle.Someday I will get over that too.
Over all,I'm not as screwed as I used to be.
