dear RF,
well you have been on this board for a while, so you know that so many of us have either been through very hard times or have been threatened with losing our loved ones....some have suffered that loss and some are right now in exactly your situation. we have been through it and we know how it feels. so we really can say that we understand, and we can say in all sincerity that if there is anything we can do to offer moral support and love we will. please give your wife a hug from all of us.
love, nowisee