Mary : Been there ... done that. Let your friend (grown woman) decide her own future without recrimination. She does that enough herself.
I NEED SOME HELP FOR A FRIEND.......
by Mary 15 Replies latest jw friends
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berylblue
I really want to help her stop this horrible habit, but I'm not sure what I can do
I started smoking again at 39. I know all the arguments. Nothing could have stopped me.
There's nothing you can do, please trust me on this one.
Rosemarie
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libra_spirit
Mary,
It sounds to me like she is testing the water. Can you still be her friend if she chooses to smoke? She will soon find out who is really her friend and who is not. I agree with the majority of comments, let her decide she is a big girl. If you still hold her as a friend then you have passed her test.
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Mary
Yes I will still be her friend. She's been a very good friend to me and I will absolutely not abandon her........I just hate to see her start this filthy habit back up again when it's going to cost her big time.
I will more than likely heed the advice given to me here, to just leave it alone and hopefully, she'll realize down the road that it's not the smartest thing she's ever done.................
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smack
Let her be, what's the worse thig that'll happen, she'll die from it? We all die eventually, some of us just live first.
Steve
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Billygoat
Mary, you're a great friend for being concerned about her. Smoking ciggies is not the best thing in the world to pick up, especially at her age. But trust me...it's not the worst. I've had several friends involved heavily in hard drugs. Those are much worse! Just love on her, tell her you love her, and continue accepting her where she's at. More than anything what she needs is unconditional love. More than anything that's what we ALL need.