I've asked my husband about this many times, and he always manages to skirt the issue. Here is the point I try to get across to him:
First of all, you have to agree that God is fundamentally fair (he agrees with me on this point.) And God can read hearts, right? (He agrees with this, too.) So if someone say, lives in China, hasn't gotten a Witness, and has a good heart, then they get a second chance, right? (Yes.) And lets say someone who lives down the street from us, believes in God, lives a good, clean, moral life, but they prefer their own religion even though a JW has on occasion knocked on their door and given them a witness - no matter how poorly executed. They die, right? (This is when he stops answering.)
Here is the kicker - Okay, let's assume that you are right, and Armageddon comes. Chinaman is still here but Neighborman is toast. Now, explain the fairness of this. Don't you think it would be a LITTLE EASIER for Chinaman to accept the doctrine after God himself has killed everybody else on the entire freaking earth except the Witnesses? Don't you think this little detail would have made it slightly easier for Neighborman to accept the TRUTH? Personally, I think the Witnesses are a bunch of fruitcakes, but if the Almighty Jehovah pays a visit and explains things personally, I don't think I would have too much of a problem changing my tune!!!!!