Talesin,
After watching father, mother, and brother in-law eaten up by cancer, a friend told me he had cancer and my first words were, "where have you always wanted to go in your life?" Knowing that his health wasn't getting better, and now was the time. He sat and thought, and we talked, and we planned a trip to Hawaii (the large island). We went to the library, looked at travel books, and sat all afternoon and evening talking softly about life (both of ours) and different spots on the island. We never made the trip. That night his family whisked him off to the VA hospital and he soon passed over. Next time, I'll just take the person to the airport and we'll go.