How many of you went to the elders when you / someone did something wrong ?

by run dont walk 39 Replies latest watchtower beliefs

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  run dont walk

  I've read a lot of threads of late, where people stated when they did something wrong they would go the elders the next day and confess.

  I find this truly bizzare !!!

  Okay, maybe I didn't have a conscience as a JW, I did alot of things wrong, but, that would be the f--kin' day I would go to the elders and confess anything. I would never tell those old goots anything, because then they would have something to hang over you for a long time.

  Maybe it's just me.

  How many of you went to the elders first, when you / someone did something wrong ???

  here's the big question ................

  Did you say to yourself after "why the hell did I tell them anything ???"
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  dmouse

  While I was a JW I never did anything wrong, not seriously.

  But if I had then hell no, I always felt it would be between me and God.
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  Wolfgirl

  *raises hand sheepishly*

  I was one of the dummies who confessed. A few times, it was after someone had either already told them, or threatened to tell them. Once I went on my own. Duh. *rolls eyes*

  How stupid! And JWs say that "confession" like the Catholics do is wrong. *shakes head* If I were a religious person and followed the rules, I'd prefer the Catholic way.
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  Maverick

  If you really believed they were servants of the True God and He would withhold his blessings on your cong. (like I did) then you would not hesitate to go to them. I tried twice to step down and both times the Elders talked me out of it. Not thinking outside the box, I got frustrated and when out and had sex with this worldly woman and then went and told them, knowing they would have to remove me. Which they did. I had, in over twenty years as a dud, never been on that side of the JC. Even when they DF'd my wife for adultery I was treated like the victim and she the bad old sister! Funny now because by their actions it is obvious that committing adultry on ones mate is a far lesser offense than questioning the validity of the Society as God Earthly Org! My daughter went to the DC and she got hammered by the duds over that letter I sent out last Feb on Baptisum Nullification. She got so angry at the bone heads she asked me for a copy of CoC! Maverick
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  Amazing

  I did. - Jim W.
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  Austrian

  Hell no, I never did. The group of young ones that I associated with were ratted out by a goody goody for drugs and sex one time. We found out and before the JC was formed the 8 of us got together to get our stories straight. Deny, Deny, Deny... It was the best!!! Result was private reproof for 3 of us. The best part was the goody goody saw the errors of her ways and apologized to us. She then came over to the dark side of the force.
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  cruzanheart

  I didn't have to confess to anybody -- my dad was an elder and he and Mom made CERTAIN I did nothing wrong . . . or interesting, or fun, or [*sigh*] . . . well, you get the picture!

  As for the one time when I sneaked out of the house to go out on a date with a guy they didn't approve of -- I didn't tell my parents about that until Dad was disfellowshipped for adultery and Mom had Alzheimer's. Hey, I'm not stupid!

  Nina
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  Hamas

  I know OF a brother that went to the elders after, how do you say, hand relief.
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  Country Girl

  After I was molested, never trusted any adult enough, much less the elders. I was a cynic from age 4.

  CG
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  unbeliever

  There is no way I would go to them for anything. On the other hand they always came to me without fail when they thought I had done something wrong.