Give experiences as to what it felt to be a female in the JW's..

by Country Girl 18 Replies latest jw friends

  • Country Girl
    Country Girl

    I can tell you how bad it felt. It felt bad every time I put some "doily" on my head cuz some fourteen year old baptized freak was saying the pryaer that day. It felt good when I had to put a NAPKIN on my head, knowing I was the oldest child, because my brother was baptized... and I was older and babysitting him.. to show "submission."

    I want to ask all of you, what did YOU think of SUBMISSION? to us... it was a fun feeling, knowing that you weren'nt good enough to pray to Jehovah unless some stood in for you.. . Funny.. how they stood in for you, those that were hypocrits and freaks... you knew that and I knew that..

    athene

  • Vivamus
    Vivamus

    I felt so appreciated when some nitwit excuse for a brother would tell me where to go for fieldservice. I felt so humble when I stood for 15 minutes waiting till he sorted out how the territory should be divided, knowing that a five year old child would figure that out in two... and I hoped Jah would appreciate me realizing for I should respect him, not cuz he was smarter, wiser, older, but because he had a penis, and I did not.

    -

    And the world shall tremble in the wake of the Blue Bubblegum
    Dutch District Overbeer

  • Holey_Cheeses*King_of_the juice.
    Holey_Cheeses*King_of_the juice.

    Ooops, sorry, I'll back out of this one - I thought the subject was "Give experiences of how it was to feel a female JW?"

    cheeses - shaking his head in shame.

  • Wolfgirl
    Wolfgirl

    Hee-hee!

    Viv, I am SOOOO with you on the territory thing. It got really annoying when you had to sit there for ages, first for the idiot brother to figure out how to divide a few people up into car groups, and then how to assign territory. I don't know if this was true everywhere, but in our area, they actually had to give a talk about not spending too much time standing on the street corners assigning territory, because it scared the householders to see a mob of us. *rolls eyes* So many times, I felt like just getting up there, shoving the guy back in his seat, and taking 2 minutes to do what it took him 15 to do.

    I never understood why sisters couldn't do the Bible reading talks (#2). I mean, how hard is it to read a few verses and apply them? But oh no, the sisters can only parrot exactly what is in some book. Wouldn't want those stupid females trying to apply a few verses without an outline already in place for them! *tsk tsk* *more eye rolling*

    And don't get me started on how it isn't appropriate for women to carry the mikes, hand out magazines and books behind a counter, or anything else like that, as if having a penis endowed a man with some special abilities to keep track of how many magazines each person got. (I could understand how it would help in mike carrying.) In our cong, we actually had a sister doing the accounts for a while, coz there weren't any "qualified" brothers who knew how to do it. You can bet as soon as a man came along who could add and subtract, she was not allowed to do them anymore. She sure did a better job than the guy did. Oh, and I typed up the talk schedules that they posted on the announcement board (Don't you dare say bulletin board! That's what Christendom calls it!) for my father. But of course, no one was allowed to know that it was my typing skills on display instead of my fathers. Bloody 'ell. What a bunch of lunatics.

    Being a woman as a JW sucked bigtime. I was always too independent for it. It just took me a while to stand my ground.

  • berylblue
    berylblue

    In a word, like sh*t.

    Oh, that was two words. Sorry.

    Rosemarie

  • TresHappy
    TresHappy

    I think the worst part for me was the constant reminder about headship. I wasn't married, but it seems these talks and sermons and diatribes came so often. It always gave the men something to cheer about!

  • freein89
    freein89

    I have a story for this one!!!!! Back in 1989, before my whole life blew up in my face our family was "chosen" for a trip to Poland to encourage the "brothers and sisters" there. Wow it was quite the deal. The society actually approved our going. I guess we were going to show off how great we American witlesses were, at the time it seemed so great but now I can't believe it. Anyway

    My elder husband was disfellowshipped for his behavior which I have posted about before and after the JC which I was able to attend with him I went up to the CO and said well, I guess were not going to Poland. His eyes bulged with panic and he said I can't discuss this with you, I have to discuss this with your husband. I was a woman and so he could not discuss weighty spiritual matters with me.

    So he walked 3 feet away from me to where my filthy wrongdoing and now disfellowshipped husband was standing, and told HIM that we couldn't go to Poland.

    What a joke, I was standing right there listening, but he couldn't discuss it with me. I was so angry and it all was beginning to hit home, I was beginning to realize what a farce the whole thing is. It was the very first time that I realized what a joke I was as a JW woman. I was not a whole person, I was less than, I did not exist. As if the brown paper on mirrors wasn't enough to convince me!!!!!

    Deb

  • Xandria
    Xandria

    Gawd you touched a note with this subject. I have always HATED the term SUBMIT.. "woman submit to the headship."

    The Men in the WTS use it all the time to protect thier tiny egos. Submit unto your mate in all things. What they don't realize the context of submit doesn't mean abandonly submit to what ever is being commanded. The seem to get the notion that this gives them cart blanche to do what ever and we have to do as commanded.

    To fully submit to someone you must know the following:

    • That they have your best interests at heart and by that they have taking all discussions and thoughts into bearing. To agree together this is the course of action.
    • TRUST!!!! you cannot just submit to someone because they say so. There has to be tremendous trust in this relationship.
    • One cannot blindly submit to someone who is going to abuse the trust,neglect the needs of the person or people it affects, thus endangering them, the relationship. IT is expressively selfish in matters to have one subjucate the other. That is completely out of balance.

    But yet here we are with the WTS's command and using of this verse in a bible to shackle countless millions. They take it as a way to make the female second class. Yet we are the life givers, the vessels to which life is carried and born.

    It boggles the mind truly it does. I hate the he-man, tarzan mindset. ick!

    X.

  • tinkerbell82
    tinkerbell82

    I'm actually very glad i was born a woman, because if i were a man i'd probably still be in 'the truth'. the fact that a woman is not allowed to have equal footing but is supposed to be OK with that fact is really the thing that pushed me to get out. even when i felt it was wrong to resent that, i still felt resentment because of it.

    weaker vessel, my @ss

  • teenyuck
    teenyuck

    What more can I say? You, all, covered everything!

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