Would you rather??

SheilaM

I experienced a situation not to long ago and was left wondering. If you that you rathers would you rather have an insincere apology or none at all? I find myself left with a kinda sick pissed-off feeling when I get a "I'm sorry but....this is why blah blah blah" What do you think???

unique1

None at all. If they don't get why they should apologize then it is worth nothing and they should say nothing.

closer2fine

None at all.

closer

StinkyPantz

Bad Sheila. . .

arrowstar

If it's not a sincere apology, then it's just hot air. Don't waste my time or yours.

Arrowstar

pettygrudger

I would think that would depend on the situation. If the apology was a sincere one, with an explanation of why something was done/said - then that doesn't make for insincerity.

Usually an apology is accompanied by an explanation isn't it??? "I'm sorry I was rude to you on the phone, but I was having an awful day and the cat had just thrown up on the carpet". This doesn't make the apology any less sincere.

Sometimes, how we take an apology really is a reflection moreso on ourselves. Do we wish to "forgive", or are we seeking to further our own anger & hostility towards the situation.

If the apology is truly "insincere", then of course none at all is more honest, and better.

bluesapphire

I don't mind when someone wants to explain the reason for why they did/said something. Sometimes it helps as part of the apology to understand where the other person was/is coming from. I don't necessarily equate this with being insincere.

OTOH, I have no problem being direct with a person if I do believe they are being insincere. It's a lot better than playing passive-aggressive games, in my opinion.

micheal

An insincere apology and nothing said at all are both the same - No Apology.

gambit

I agree with pettygrunder for the most part... However, I think the word "but" is a sticky one... other ways to apologize, that come out naturally for me, when they are sincere, go more along the lines of...

Hey Sis... I was having a really bad day yesterday... blah..blah..blah.. I didn't mean to take it out on you.. I'm sorry. OR

I'm sorry I attacked you yesterday with my words. It was wrong that I took out my personal frustrations on you.

If the apology is received, the dialog usually continues... Thats OK, I'm over it... Is everything alright.. You can talk to me about it if you want...

The door is opened for honest communication.... I'm sorry, but if someone says "I'm sorry, but I was having a bad day" it doesn't come across as sincere at all. --- In other words, do really believe I'm sorry about having this opinion...

gambit

Was this off topic?

SheilaM

I do realize that in normal small things outside factors can effect how you act but when someone is a real friggin monster and they make a habit of acting that way there is no but .... I have a sister who's conduct is always over-the-top and she is the excuses person it's always SOMETHING that MAKES her act that way. LOL Never the fact that she won't accept responsibility for her behavior.

Gambit you said it just fine

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