Helped with fathers funeral, helped with arranging care for my mother - then SHUNNED again!!

by EssexBoy1 27 Replies latest jw experiences

  • Wasanelder Once
    Wasanelder Once

    Well, they used you for "necessary business", that being; getting your contribution to caring for your mum and input as someone who obviously can work with worldly people to get her situated. Then of course, you're no longer necessary for business. Fools. Good to see you back.

  • ToesUp
    ToesUp

    Let your mums "spiritual family" take care of her.

    I could not treat a dog the way these people do. So loving!

  • stan livedeath
    stan livedeath

    my late jw dad was in a care home for the last 3 years of his life. i visited him every other day. there was no contact from any jw's for the last 12 months.

  • LV101
    LV101

    EssexBoy1 - Move Mum to the most expensive memory care facility and the money will go fast.

    I'm so sorry you have to deal with these despicable people.

  • smiddy
    smiddy

    My mind boggles , in how they justify themselves to be a loving Christian religion ? ,how they can not see they are breaking up family`s ?, how they can be so stupid ?

    So cold hearted , so devoid of any emotional feeling ?

    They have no shame , yet they should have , if their was an inch decency left in them .

    Take care EssexBoy1

    My heart goes out to you

    smiddy

  • wannaexit
    wannaexit

    Witnesses are cruel with their disfellowshipping business. Thanks for coming back to the forum. Hope you stay.

  • stan livedeath
    stan livedeath

    EssexBoy1 - Move Mum to the most expensive memory care facility and the money will go fast.


    absolutely the way to go--make sure mum has the best her money can buy her. when its gone--its gone--

  • Ding
    Ding

    Sorry you are going through all this.

  • tiki
    tiki

    Don't know how legalities figure in, but is there a legal guardian appointed? If its jw brother he can make it hard for you...but if the two of you are co-guardians you can ignore him. The facility has the upper hand on visitation usually though, so as long as he doesn't get you on some blacklist you have no problem. The only problem would be if your presence causes mum to have behavioral difficulties that are difficult for staff to manage and even then they can assign a staff to monitor your visits to ensure mum has no negative side effects. Of course I am speaking from the American way these things work.

  • OnTheWayOut
    OnTheWayOut

    So sorry to read of your family treatment.

    You would know your mother better than us. If she really wants to do as Watchtower commands and if visiting her is out of the question, then so be it. I would just be sure which is better- visiting and upsetting your brother or doing as asked. Your mother is ill and might actually appreciate visits. But you should know for yourself.

    Were it me, I would have to be sure to keep abiding by that decision even if she outlives her money, even if she needs greater care, even with her eventual funeral. People will expect you to come through with aid/money after treating you like dirt. I would not respond. You know that your brother will have nothing to do with you either way.

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