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Should I stay married to my JW wife
by gatorguy 24 Replies latest jw experiences
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stan livedeath
I think I'd just lay it all out on the table for her and see how the chips fall. She will then have the choice of you or the cult and the decision may be made for you.
my thoughts exactly.
i married my 3rd generation born in wife when i was 20. i decided i'd had enough religion by the time i was 23. the marriage lingered for another 10 years and produced 3 kids. i then--stupidly--got involved in an affaire and wifey divorced me " on scriptural grounds" almost before my feet were back on the ground. she had wanted out of the marriage for years !.
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KateWild
A useful book for you to read is "Combating Cult Mind Control" by Steve Hassan.
Your wife is stuck in a cult and the book describes that people have two different personalities when in a cult. A cult personality and an authentic personality.
The book helps loved ones focus on the authentic personality to help them move on slowly and eventually see they are in a cult that they need to escape. Not everyone can help their loved ones but there is some very good advice in the book.
If you really love your wife I would recommend you read this book and try taking some of the advice in it.
If it's not working then the best thing to do is divorce. But if you love her, try first.
Kate xx
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Doubtfully Yours
If you love her and she respects your stance, why not?
If not, all she says/does will just make you angry; so, just end it amicably now.
DY
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chasjazz
If at all possible, stay married. Work it out together. Just about the same thing happened to me. She is still an active JW and I'm an atheist - never was a JW. We now have been married 50 years, two sons, five grandchildren. Although the JW's are an horrible religion, I respect my wife's decision. I have no respect for the JW's. But she didn't push it either with me or the children. At meeting time she does her thing. She agreed not to push the JW's on the children. Had I been a JW it may have worked out differently.