I will have to go with the "not so subtle" concensus!
But you are right about her probably being scared. Your life has changed with the new knowledge you have aquired, her life has changed and she might not totally understand how or why it happened. I would imagine she wants her old life back and is willing to do anything to get it...even resorting to not so subtle means.
Don't get me wrong I am not advocating your returning to the dubs to make her happy, just some patience and understanding for a situation she may now find herself in and is trying to come to grips with too.......
Wishing you the best