Do You Try To Make People Feel Comfortable Around You?

by minimus 34 Replies latest jw friends

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  Elsewhere

  Yeah, it's an obession for me!
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  JH

  If that man makes a few changes in his life, he could become a circuit breaker overseer in only a few years.

  Praise the lord.
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  minimus

  We must not look at what we see on the outside. Perhaps, that man is as nice as JH.
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  tinkerbell82

  We must not look at what we see on the outside.

  aw, why not? he's kinda cute. :P
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  nilfun

  I'm talking about actually, knowingly and purposely
  hurting a person or making them feel sad and unwanted.

  Perhaps the people that seem to be intentionally
  hurtful don't realize they are making another poster
  feel sad and unwanted.

  I think that if anyone here has gotten their
  feelings hurt, it is their responsibility to
  let the offender know. The PM box is one way to do this.

  I think that would at least open up
  a dialogue between the two that (hopefully) might lead to
  a better understanding of each other's viewpoint.
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  oldcrowwoman

  That was my former job in life was to make others feel comfortable. In other words a dysfunctional family. Was a heavy load to carry around.

  Now I can be who I am. Take responsibility for myself and my actions. When I get into those caretaking modes my gut goes off like geiger counter . It's a warning that I am not taking care of myself.

  Those who are abrasive and toxic behaviors. I don't hang around them. When my boundaries have been violated or unjust. I speak up. Otherwise I'm easy-going and calm person. For the most part get along with most people.

  OCW
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  blondie

  I try not to be abusive but then I'm not going to hold your hand either all the time. Our comfort zone is our responsibility. I try to walk away from a fight unless I am cornered and can't. Physically, nothing holds me here at JWD so I can always walk away. As to my personal life, I never withhold information that can help someone, but I try to give it in a way they will be willing to use it; I try not nag.

  Blondie
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  minimus

  I too feel that if cornered, I'll defend myself. But----I try not to volley the 1st shot. Depending upon the situation, I might feel like I wanna hold a person's hand. But not everyone's the same. Some people will get picked on more than not. We shouldn't underestimate kindness.
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  obiwan

  Now Frenchbabyface, I care, as do many others.
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  moonwillow

  I try to be myself. Why be someone your not just to please people? In the end you just turn out to be someone you don't like perhaps and what the use in that? If someone doesn't like me then it's best we both move on and not waist the others time. No I don't intentionally hurt others enough people do that in this world we live in. Yes I do re-evaluate thngs from time to time some times there is a different angle that can be taken.