Reminder about language and content (page 3)

freemindfade

In new york city swearing is an art form...

I miss NYC

Jehalapeno

It's a sin to use foul language. Jehovah doesn't like it, and neither does Jehalapeño.

Conform to subjective morality. It means your eternal salivation.

Landy

Here is how I see it. Imagine if, during that time in which you were turned off by "apostates", you got into a horrible car wreck (knock on wood) and you still kept your "no-blood card" in your wallet. They respected the "no-blood card" and let you die, right there, on the operating table. Horrible, right?
Well, imagine you had not been turned off by "apostates". Instead, "apostates" showed a loving & kind demeanor toward your objections and questions (like Paul Grundy & others did to me). You started having stronger doubts and, like me, asked for your "no-blood card" from the Elder's files and destroyed the one carried in your wallet (I did this very early on, even though I was still active for about 2 years afterward).
Then, you get into that same accident and your life is saved by a transfusion. You fully wake up, as does your family. Boom! Life saved.
THAT is how important it is we set a good example for lurkers and active JWs. It is a matter of life and death!
Oh, but its just "satire", right? Wrong! We have a responsibility to current JWs and the little children who might end up not being raised in this damn cult, just by us swallowing our pride and being respectful.

The problem is I have no wish to stop you being a witness. I stopped trying to convert people when I stopped going twenty years ago. You're a big boy. You can make your own mind up.

DesirousOfChange

Thanks to Jacob & Faye for so eloquently stating the need to remember that, while this is a great place to "vent", it is also one of the most visited sites for those with new doubts and concerns.

It's important that we not fulfill the WTS's pejorative description about "mentally diseased apostates".

Of course I am aware that many/most here are angry &/or bitter about wasting so much of our lives; or losing our friends and family; or being dealt with unjustly or unfairly. Yet, how much better for us to portray how happy we are now to have learned TTATT. Personally I am still pretty damn angry! But I am grateful to no longer be on the JW treadmill and I am thrilled that my children are free of the nonsense and are successful in life (thanks to getting an education).

Remember, TTATT will set you free.

Doc

The greatest revenge is living a happy & successful life!

elderINewton

Have to say it, but can't resist:

http://time.com/96084/swearing-is-good-for-you/

http://www.thestar.com/news/gta/2014/05/16/swearing_is_actually_good_for_you_study_finds.html

From one article: "Basically, they argue that profanity is often used as a coping mechanism and can help us feel more resilient."

From the other: "Swearing appears to trigger a flight or fight response, said Stephens, which then releases endorphins that diminish the pain."

While there is a time and place for everything, sometimes swearing is the only easy way for us to diminish the pain that has been inflicted on us by the Borg. As this place is as much to heal as much as it is for new ones to visit. I would agree that misogyny has no place anywhere.

Tough to please everyone isn't it.

Pete Zahut

Even in the world we live in today, where people have a tendency to balk at any kind of restriction of their behavior, swearing in a public forum where there are a variety of individuals with varying sensibilities is still not considered good form.

If you used foul language in a court of law, during a public debate, in a job interview with a reputable company, when you were introduced to someone new, in most business situations or when speaking to neighbors you didn't know very well, chances are you wouldn't be doing yourself a favor.

Besides all that....Simon sez NO !

steve2

Witness or not, religious or not, athiest or not, agnostic or not, neutral or not, anybody and everyone posting, feel like using foul language? Zip it. And that includes me. I wouldn't do it in public, so why would I do it here?

freemindfade

If you used foul language in a court of law,

I haven't tried that yet, but once when I getting questioned by lawyers for jury duty I did say I felt when I was a victim of a theft justice was not served. When asked why, I said "because I believe this is a court of law not justice"... and I was excused from having to do jury duty by the judge. I don't think he appreciated it very much

Simon

"Basically, they argue that profanity is often used as a coping mechanism and can help us feel more resilient."

There is a reason that there isn't an absolute rule on language because it depends so much on context.

Is it appropriate that someone uses an expletive when writing about some injustice todo with the abuser of their child? You're damn right it is and it would be crazy to clamp down on that for "consistency" reasons.

But the same language in a different topic can be completely inappropriate. It's about being balanced and civil and at the same time flexible to circumstances and situations.

It's also not about trying to convert people - it's simply not going out of the way to be shocking or tolerating those that just want to do that.

There are times and places for lots of different language, on the whole we'd prefer some basic level of civility and decency.

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