WG, I’m sorry for the pain you are going through right now. When someone pains you like this, I can understand how fun it can be thinking of revenge. I myself have thought of similar plots for revenge against those in the WTS who have caused me pain, but I always thought I was being a bit ‘3v1l’
But OMG! Mary, you know I love you and that we are the best of buds, right?
Many of the ideas mentioned are harmless and certainly would be a source of glee knowing you are being a thorn in the side.
With that being said, I have to echo Ravyn’s words say that you make sure that your first intent with a pending divorce is to make sure you guard your kids, finances, and assets. Any revenge that may put the above at jeopardy, while emotionally may be fulfilling for a while, I feel in the long run would be regretted if it blows up in your face in court.
JW’s think that we want to do nothing more than exact pain on the dubs. Going on a full-scale offensive will only feed into that Dub mentality and firm their belief that ‘Satan is attacking them’.
Personally, I think sometimes the best way to get revenge is to do the very opposite of what your enemies would expect.
A boyfriend/girlfriend breaks up with you and they expect that you’ll be dragging your sorry arse around moping about your loss? Make sure they see you happy, and having the time of your life without them in your life anymore.
Get fired from a job? Go work for a competitor and out do them in their own market.
Even young children do this to their parents.
Spank them and you expect them to cry? How does a parent feel when they gleefully say, “That didn’t hurt!”
And when you are living even better than before, don’t gloat about it. Act cool and collected because having things go great in your life is now second nature to you without that other party involved in your life anymore.
It may take more restraint planning or be less fun to go about it this way. But IMHO, it is far more devastating.
People who now think that you have gone ‘apostate’ will now expect you to be out of control. You know, 2 Ti 3: 1-5.
But how enraged do JW’s get when they see that an ‘apostate’ goes on to lead a normal, even happier life than before they were a JW?
It infuriates them. They don’t understand it.
So go to the KH once in a while and show them how ‘normal’ you are and put a monkey wrench in everyone’s concept of the ‘evil apostates’. Smile, laugh, shake hands and talk. And it will put your hubby in a bind trying to prove how evil you are. Don’t go back and beat your former brothers because that’s exactly what they expect.
I think there is truth to the saying, “keep your friends close, but your enemies even closer.”
But above else, make sure to guard your children and assets. You don’t want to do anything to put that at risk in a court of law.
WG, I hope you come through this smelling like a rose.
My $0.02
Best wishes,
Winston.