I will tell you what attracts me to a guy at a party. First, his looks---and dont groan yet---Does he have kind eyes? A flirty smile? Does he meet my eyes? Have a strong jaw? Nice hands? Nice butt? Does he move with grace? Dress like he cares? Is he talking to other guys? girls? both? older people? younger people? children? pets? What is he eating/drinking and how?
Then I want him to talk to me first, but if he looks inviting I will talk to him first if he does not make the first move. What is his voice like? Deep? Smooth? (too smooth is not good.) Does he laugh easily or sound like a laugh would be attractive? Does he sound confident, not arrogant? Is he smart/funny/witty/attentive? Does he actually talk about himself and give you equal time? Does he ask questions/show interest?
For me it is a combination of good humor and confidence. Honest and down-to-earth, but capable of talking about and understanding the spiritual and abstract. Shy can be attractive as long as it is not immobilizing.
All these things are identified, typed, and categorized in less than 5 minutes. So basically to attract me, you need to start it before you even get to the party....
Ravyn