born into it, and all my family still in, so it will probaly always be a part of my life, not necessarily a burden, but til I die. That's just the way it is.
How long do you think being a JW will affect you?
by Adam 35 Replies latest jw friends
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ikhandi
My past of being a jw will never leave me despite some days I wish it would all go away and stop haunting me. My experiences and heartache will stay with me to my death
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talesin
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Gopher
Probably all my remaining days. However, after my JW relatives (parents, grandparents) are off the scene, the "shunning" part won't affect me as much any more.
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fairy
for the rest of my pitiful life
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Skeptic
For the rest of my life. That is not necessarily a bad thing.
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2escaped lifers
Unfortunately, I think it will haunt us all to a degree forever. We're newly out but both born into it. Take it slowly, and don't expect to heal the wounds immediately. This is not like a bandaid. No matter how quickly or slowly you pull it off, it will always hurt . Just live. Now that you can.
Stephanie
P.S. Congrats on your exit, and welcome. You'll find alot of sympathy here.
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Jesika
Well..........I too was a "raised in"...........I got myself df'd at age 15 on purpose.....I just wanted out, but alot of it had to do with abuse issues or how abuse issues were "handled" while a JW.
To be honest........I had tried to NOT let the JW stuff get to me........and for 12yrs didn't talk about it much and accepted my family was gone forever.
Now at the age of 27.........I came online last yr for the first time..........and I found this place and silentlambs.org which is what led me here actually.
I never thought in a million yrs I would find soooooooooooooooo many that can "feel my pain', and from being here I have grown alot, and feel a sense of "acknowledgement" for how I felt and feel.
I wish I would have had this kind of resource soooooooooo many yrs ago.......I felt so alone.....cause I was alone.
I am back on track as far as counseling is concernd and am looking forward to "dealing" with the JW stuff in my past. The therapist I found knows about JW's and similar religions.........she even knows the "lingo", so I will have to spend little time explaining the dinamics of it all, which is a relief.
Honestly though..........I really do think since it was something ingrained in me since birth.......I will never be fully rid of it..........but it wasnt all bad........I am really good at talking in frount of large crowds for instance.
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mouthy
I dont think I will ever be rid of it!!! I am alone now. Lots of time to think!!! Remembering how hard I was on my hubby-kids-being such an obnoxious JW...I was always putting Kingdom Hell interests first...Thinking I was pleasing God....They are dead. But I am still here > remembering!!! My life is now dedicated to helping people who are trapped in the Borg to get free.If I can serve a False Prophet for over 20 yrs, I can I can spend the little time I have left trying to rectify that. No I dont think I am doing it for GOD- I am doing it for GRACE!!!!!!
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Frannie Banannie
....ummm.....that's a hard one.....until I get a lobotomy?.....til death do us part?....for the rest of my life?.....and that's good.....cause I won't hafta make THAT same mistake again....too costly...
Frannie B