I cannot go into great detail just yet, because a lot of what I have going with my family hinges on what will happen on the weekend of October 10 th .
A short background of this topic before the question: At a very young age…. VERY young… I was sexually “abused”, by more than one member of our congregation. Including a family member. By the age of ten, this was to me, considered “normal” behavior…. I neither saw it as “abuse” nor “deviant”…. But just the way things worked.
Between the ages of seven and ten, I not only engaged in “sexual activity” with another male from the congregation, but he as well was abused by adult members.
Both he and I, have families now (wives and children)…. I ran away at twelve, never to be a part of the organization again…. HE stayed. A full time Pioneer, eventually an elder, Blah Blah Blah….
Question: He is approximately thirty years old now.
He recently applied to Bethel… and his application was REJECTED based on the fact that he and I (at the age of ten) engaged in “homo-sexual” activity???? The Person(s) that “abused” both he and I, are still ACTIVE members, and in one case… an elder.
I do not understand why they would turn his application down based on this. ??? Does anyone know the “current light” on this topic? I am in no hurry. I won’t face the “tribunal” that awaits me until October. I have tricked my family into believing that I am willing to return to the organization, in order to be allowed to be with my terminally ill mother. I am to make my “final Plea” on the weekend of October 10 th . (if she lives that long). With most of my JW family near death…. This will be my last chance at my inheritance, and closure.
I no longer look for this to work out in my favor. After my mother is dead, all bets are off with with this organization. *edit threats of violence* But I really do not know how to go about fighting this part of it.
Your input would be appreciated.
---dumbolputtytat