Are you ever taken aback by what some here have said to you ?

by berylblue 72 Replies latest jw friends

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  Special K

  No Beryl I haven't been taken back by what someone said to me personally.

  I'm too new yet, I think..

  BUT... I have been surprised to see what some have said to others..(I think name calling is getting kind of low on the totem pole) alot of times though as the bantering continues on the thread it sometimes has ended with apologies being posted from both sides. That is kind of nice to see.

  Some of these issues are such HOT TOPICS it is easy that at times people can become very passionate about what they are saying even to the point of being down right RUDE.

  I've started taking longer in making my posts. It's a little to easy to press the send button... and then it's gone before you have had time to think about what you wrote and how it will affect others or possibly be taken the wrong way. It's the same thing as talking without thinking.. Typing and sending without thinking it through.

  So... I type just as fast as ever.. but I'm slower to press the SEND BUTTON.

  If someone has posted something that seemed particularly nasty, I too, have gone back and read most of their posts and can sometimes see that their thoughts have been moulded by particular circumstances which they have been through. (It has helped me to feel more compassion to such ones)

  sincerely

  Special k
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  berylblue

  I want to thank ALL of you for your excellent responses. I need to become a little more thick skinned. I'm sure the posters who hurt me didn't know their words would have such an impact on me.

  Rosemarie
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  onacruse

  shotgun:

  If you truly care about your fellowman take the time to see what makes them tick.

  Oh yes! And in finding out what makes them tick (usually takes some type of 'personal' contact, eh?) we find out all the more what makes us tick.

  Special K:

  It's a little to easy to press the send button... and then it's gone before you have had time to think about what you wrote and how it will affect others or possibly be taken the wrong way.

  I'd say 30% of my posts I never pushed that dreaded "submit" button (usually because I noticed the spittle on the edges of my mouth ) and half of the others I edited myself after I'd posted.

  Many many good perspectives on this thread.

  Craig

  edit to add: I just edited myself, again. LOL
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  bikerchic

  I think I'm more taken aback by the lack of responce to my postings that I get. At least I used to be that way, recently I figured I would just post them and it's all cathartic to me, if in some small way what I say has a positive effect on a reader, well that's great and it's okay that I don't know about it.

  I prefer to not know if someone doesn't like what I say..........I'm probably a bit thin-skinned too and would get my feelings all hurt. I pretty much avoid confrontational posts, I'm a whimp!BTW Rosemarie I admire you!

  Kate
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  Voyager

  BeryLBlue:

  I know exactly how all of these people feel, because it has happened to me. If it had not been for the encouragement from Randy Watters, then I probably would have never posted again.

  Every person on this forum is an excellent researcher in one way or another, or each one has something important to say. When mud is rubbed in your face, just because someone may not agree with what you post, it can cut to the quick.

  Randy's advise was to (tuff-en) up my skin so that the negatives bounce right off. I myself have had to aquire a more acceptable attitude towards things that I too may not agree with. If I don't agree, well then, OK, but I don't have to be rude. I have to admit, that I could have shown a more caring attitude towards others posts myself. One of my posts that brought anger, was (my own) fault. I really owed the forum an apology, so if anyone here missed that apology, then I am listing it now. You'll do just fine. Good post.
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  Valis

  I think I'm more taken aback by the lack of responce to my postings that I get.

  I keep telling you that it is the bad association and everyone around you sees it. However you have refused to listen to my "spirit directed" council and continue to lay down with the Onanites....Jehover aint happy as evinced by the lack of response to your threads.....sheesh...so obvious...

  Sincerely,

  District Overbeer
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  onacruse

  Voyager, what you just said is a premier example of how we can grow here, if we choose to. A combination of honesty (speak your mind, free and clear) and humility (learn from others, and be willing to say a simple 'sorry').

  Thanks for your honesty. That's what makes this forum really work.

  Craig
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  Voyager

  CRAIG:

  Thanks, that is the most encouraging reply I have ever received. Voyager.
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  bikerchic

  Valis:

  However you have refused to listen to my "spirit directed" council and continue to lay down with the Onanites....Jehover aint happy as evinced by the lack of response to your threads.....sheesh...so obvious...

  Like dude! Sheese........you just can't accept onaisim, but if you would just try it once I'm sure you like me would be hooked for life.......and if that is what is holding Jehovers spirit from me well then I say tough toenails, I could never give up my life as an Onanite now not even for the big guy and I don't mean you sweetie!

  Hugs and thanks for the response to my post!

  Kate
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  Aztec

  "I also am suprised at those who are so insistant that they are right, with no room for negotiation."

  First of all Freedom, it's suRprised. LOL. ;-) Even though you and I almost never agree on anything I like seeing your posts. Gives me food for thought! :-) I hope you realize I make way more spelling mistakes than most and I was just teasing you!

  Bikerchic, you are the cutest Onanite!

  ~Aztec in a "schmoopy" mood