How do you explain to a jw...

by Gadget 22 years ago 14 Replies latest 22 years ago jw friends

• 

  Nosferatu 22 years ago

  Cut all communication with her and move on.

  Link
• 

  GentlyFeral 22 years ago

  I was never very interested in "rescuing" JW's after I left, and still am not. So I don't dance around it, or try in any way to trick or seduce them into thinking for themselves.

  I just tell them the truth: that I was stumbled by the conduct of a sister...

  (wait for it)

  ...myself.

  GentlyFeral

  Link
• 

  Odrade 22 years ago

  Oh no, Loris! Say it ain't so... is there any way that you can get her thinking again? Does she have any particular interests that you can use to separate her enough from her studies to make her use her brain?

  My heart goes out to you AND your daughter.

  Odrade

  Link
• 

  Victorian sky 22 years ago

  I've been thinking about this too. I do have an interest in helping my family who are still in and my few JW friends but I'm not sure how. I agree that getting into a debate would be futile. I try to think of when I was a JW and what could have possibly reached me? Dotrinal agruments would not have. Maybe something emotional. I would try not to say anything negative about the borg 'cause they'll get defensive. What I've said so far to those who've asked was, 'Being a JW may work for you but it didn't work for me.' I get a blank stare, a long pause then a 'What do you mean?' then I say, 'I was bored out of my mind, depressed, felt like I was suffocating, I'm much happier now, if you wanna know why I'll tell you." They either drop the subject or let me explain. I think the advice of a previous poster was excellent, I just tell them my experience if they'll listen, the trick is not to bash the crazy religion while doing so. - V Sky

  Link
• 

  ARoarer 22 years ago

  I could no longer remain a JW because what I was expected to believe and the way I was expected to behave conflictted with my values as a Christian, and as a human being.

  Link