((((( tink )))))
Something I've never told you........
by Tinkerbell4125 39 Replies latest jw friends
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jgnat
Suicide is soooo selfish. He leaves all his problems behind, and makes darn sure everybody will feel bad about it, too. With no way of making it better. Would writing a letter to him help?
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Winston Smith :>D
Hi Tink,
Sorry to hear you carry this burden and guilt. Everyone is right, it's not your fault. But saying that and believing that are two different things I would guess.
Among the other good advice here, Lady Lee had some good pointers also.
Seek couseling as LL said. It will help you heal.
Many other good points here also.
Best luck,
Winston.
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shotgun
Tink I can't imagine your pain or guilt so I won't say I understand but I do care.
I had a few other issues after my father died from heart failure 10yrs ago....up until I had moved out I had always thought I would kill him..no joke!
Then after he died I felt guilty becaused I missed the call that he was having a heart attack....(I was on the phone when my mom tried to reach me and the ambulance arrived too late) The guilt I felt over that was compounded by having wanted to kill him guilt.
I'm glad you have a supporting mate..that sure helps. Sometimes I find especially now that I sit down and remind myself out loud all the good things I have going in my life and also all the good things about myself...it helps counteract all the negative things that bombard us every day.
Take care Tink and the comments from the forum about a counselor are good.
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shotgun
Tink I can't imagine your pain or guilt so I won't say I understand but I do care.
I had a few other issues after my father died from heart failure 10yrs ago....up until I had moved out I had always thought I would kill him..no joke!
Then after he died I felt guilty becaused I missed the call that he was having a heart attack....(I was on the phone when my mom tried to reach me and the ambulance arrived too late) The guilt I felt over that was compounded by having wanted to kill him guilt.
I'm glad you have a supporting mate..that sure helps. Sometimes I find especially now that I sit down and remind myself out loud all the good things I have going in my life and also all the good things about myself...it helps counteract all the negative things that bombard us every day.
Take care Tink and the comments from the forum about a counselor are good.
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Odrade
(((((Tink4125))))))
Like Lee said, try to get some counselling. Or maybe scout out a support group. This is too big for just you and your husband to try and work through on your own.
Sorry you are hurting.
Odrade
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dmouse
I've never had a relative commit suicide so I can't pretend to know what it feels like.
But I'm sure it's painful. All I can do is give you a cyberhug ((((((Tinks4125)))))))
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RAYZORBLADE
((((Tink)))) - well what can I say?
But I think most of what has been posted here previously, makes sense. Especially, Lady Lee.
Not your fault darling, not at all. But that being said, I know doesn't take away what you've been feeling.
I extend my open arms, and kindness to you.
It's good that you can discuss this with us. That's not only very brave, but a step towards working through your recovery.
I wish you only the very best.
Hugs,
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Flowerpetal
Tink,
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Flowerpetal
OOPS! That one got away....
You don't know me very well because I seldom post here although I read a lot of the posts, and I am so sorry for you pain. Hopefully the friends here can help.
I just had to reply when you said you thought you had control over your life. Until recently I thought that too about my life; then I get thrown a curve ball out of the blue, and it's something I now have to deal with and I don't quite know what I'm going to do or how. I guess these kinds of uncontrollable things happen to all of us when we least expect them to happen. Humanity ebbs and flows just like the waves of the ocean, and there's not a thing we can do about it, I think sometimes.