That Crumbum doesn't deserve to make my acquaintance if He can't love a person for who they are, and not for what they believe.
Ash, That's just my point. I do believe God loves you in such a way that your beliefs don't affect that love.
I used to think that "if only I did x" (and x would always be replaced by something new) God would finally look on me with total love. I'll have finally earned it.
Somehow I finally realized that God wouldn't love me more, because He actually loved me to the full right now. Even if I did my hardest to give HIm the message that I hated Him, or ended up being a mass-murderer, God does love me right now--even as He fully knows every awful thing I might do in my future.
GOD DOES NOT LOVE A PERSON FOR WHATEVER DOCTRINES THEY DO OR DON'T BELIEVE. In that case, He'd have done away with the lot of us a very long time ago! GOD DOES NOT CONDEMN PEOPLE FOR BEING IN OR NOT IN A PARTICULAR GROUP OR CHURCH, OR ANY CHURCH, FOR THAT MATTER. God didn't just make a lot of people to blow up. If I believed this, I'd feel mighty anxious.
If you care, really care about righteousness, then you've nothing to worry about! If your heart is sensitive to doing whatever is right, then God can work with you: He can make you feel uncomfortable when you realize that there is deceit and coverup, and you move on to a new place. When you see something that is good (and not just surface-deep good), you move toward it. It's not arriving at a certain spot that's the big deal--it's whether you've hardened your heart to everything good. Usually, we harden our hearts because we settle for our own standards, and refuse to consider anything higher.
I say that God is, and He is good. Even the gospel message gets boiled down to that:
1JN 1:5 This is the message we have heard from him and declare to you: God is light; in him there is no darkness at all. 6 If we claim to have fellowship with him yet walk in the darkness, we lie and do not live by the truth. 7 But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, his Son, purifies us from all sin.
If we walk in the light, God takes care of the rest.
Sorry I can't agree with you about the Bible. Though I'm sure you've been reading unbiased reports...
Gently: I don't use candles and incense, etc. ( I don't think heaven will be candles and incense either.) Music is nice, but not required. God has already well-established Himself as Reality for me, so I don't need these things to get into a particular mood or frame of mind.
AND FINALLY. I think all of you might find the research of Lawrence Kohlberg interesting, if nothing else. It is about moral development; the moral stages and levels that people go thru. Here's a simple article about it: http://www.indiana.edu/~koertge/Sem104/Kohlberg.html. It does show that behavior can be motivated by things beyond simple punishments and rewards.
It is an extremely interesting subject.